Take off Your Insecurities

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Your beauty comes more from your soul than the body you train for my viewing. As much as I love to gaze at the results of your efforts, it's the tearing down of your walls that draw me closer to you. I desire to see the questions that form in your eyes as you watch me study every crease and fondle those beautiful balls that hang between your legs. Will they be pulled, teased, tortured tonight? What will I ask of you? What will I require? Will you have a voice or be instructed to silence. Only allowed to have your body speak for you. 

Does it matter? You're here, where you want to be. In a trusted place with one whose only desire is to open you up and make you whole. You want me to reach into your soul and pull out every fear that has kept you from tasting life in a deeper more satisfying way. Facing them one at a time to fully gain the authority that has been yours from birth. Embracing every beautiful quirk and unorthodox wiring according to society's definition. 

Your desire for freedom has brought you to me. Not your savior, but your lamp-holder, shining the light to guide you back to your own path. I love your frame, it's well tended and maintained to bring me pleasure. You easily offer it to me, but I know you hide behind it's beauty thinking it's enough.  

Before you open your body to me, open up your soul. 

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Training Them Up in the Way They Should Go

In Training

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Now that I'm single and getting settled into that fact I look ahead at the daunting task of finding a suitable submissive that will thrill me, meet my needs and stimulate my imagination. The journey of finding, training and eventually owning is long and filled with the investment of time, emotions and hope.

They mostly come, those not afraid to approach, with visions of porn influenced submission that have fueled their times of masturbation with the impersonal viewing of two dimensional dominant women that meet their every desire unquestioned. When meeting a dominant woman face to face who speaks, challenges and questions their motives, most would rather retreat back into their fancy-filled dreams than face what lies within them. Those brave enough and hungry enough to move past their fears are the ones I look for.

These are the men who are tired of living half a life. Tired of hiding in dark shadows what beckons them in the mid morning hours. Men willing to put aside their preconceived ideas of submission and dominance and will strip away the role and title to reveal what makes their heart beat wild. It either lies within you or it doesn't.

The authentic I can work with, train and eventually own for both of our pleasure. Because it's not about following some rules or pattern set by someone in a best selling book. But about the reality of a connection between two people who naturally bring those desires to the surface and remove whatever boundaries society has put on them. Growing the hunger and reveling in it's ever increasing glow and power.

It's the foundation that is laid and built upon between two people with respect and adoration for one another. Knowing deep down each is needed by the other to exist. Who am I without the beauty of your submission?

I am searching and will find once again that magic. I'll know again that trust that runs deeper than any river and the vulnerability and openness of a surrendered heart. Until we are both owned by each other.

Owned

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His Eyes Hungry. His Body Pleads: Use Me!

Recently I had a conversation with NB about submissive men and men in general.  We discussed how most of society sees, trains and portrays women as sexual objects and men as the dominant conquers.  We both agree that is a wide sweeping generalization of mankind and we are seeing that change at a slow pace in the people that cross our paths.  One of the main reasons I enjoy an alternative lifestyle is the freedom of people to be and/or discover who they are aside from the labels and definitions of culture and society.  What I have found over time is the exciting discovery of traditionally alpha men needing to fulfill a deep seated desire to be sexually objectified.  A desire I find thrilling and am willing to satisfy.

When a man finds himself in a sexual relationship/encounter with a woman who knows what she wants and has a need to use him to her satisfaction where she is doing the majority of the work, he finds it new territory and eventually freeing. This becomes very enlightening for him once he ventures into anal play.  For a man to surrender his strength and allow you to penetrate him, putting him in the receiving end while he lies there and feels you working the plug, fingers or dildo into his dark region is a turn of events and exchange of power. It also gives him a better idea and frame of reference of what it is like for you when it is his cock, fingers or toy penetrating your pussy or ass.  I think this is a great example of "Turn-about-is-fair-play."

One of the great things about anal play and pegging is that it teaches the man how important 'warm up' is!  ;)  He will put up a fight if you try to go balls deep into his ass and he's not ready!  It teaches a man the art of warm up, emotionally getting him ready if it's a new experience for him and how important his 'mood' plays into the event happening in a pleasing, erotic manner.  For women we find how much 'work' fucking someone can be.  But what a great workout of the hips, ass and thighs!  No wonder most men have great shaped asses!  It's all that thrusting they've been doing!

I personally love watching the different phrases a man goes through when it comes to introducing pegging and anal play.  First reaction is normally negative, but depending on the man, you can sense as you get to know him if this wall of resistance can come down brick by brick.  And if so, the journey of bringing him to this new discovery is absolutely delicious!  Watching him go from fearful and an ass as tight as a vice grip to one that opens and welcomes you willingly at your first touch is intoxicating!  Now I understand why NB gets so excited as my pussy slowly opens for him and welcomes him warmly.  To know you are bringing pleasure and are the cause of that rush of chemicals and euphoria washing over their body is powerful.  Women who only know the receiving end of this are missing the joy that comes from having that reversed.   

Eventually your man's thoughts are filled with you 'taking' him and using him as his hunger grows, his eyes express it and his body pleads to be used!  Objectified!  I love it!  This isn't for everyone, but does fit well with a dominant woman and sexually submissive man.  There are dominant men that have found this fitting for them and I know others who would never entertain the idea.  No problem. Throw out the labels and just enjoy who you are and what your body desires to explore with a partner that fits your needs.

I love this image below from my Tumblr.  He'll mount a counter-top, lift and spread his ass to the world.  He doesn't care what anyone thinks, his ass needs to be fucked and he's letting her know it!  ;)  I love it when a man has the freedom in himself to be down right Slutty!

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Pegging Prep for Virgin Territory.

Arrived in CA last Monday around noon.  That gave NB and I lots of time throughout that day and into the next morning to get reacquainted. He was glowing and grinning when he picked me up at the airport.  It was nice to see his desire, lust and passion for me had returned. To ensure his reaction to my arrival was stirring....I had quickly changed before meeting him into a black and white pattern dress with a pleated skirt that would move with the slight wind that was blowing. Once in the car and driving to where we would stop for lunch, NB moved his right hand over to my left bare thigh, squeezed and slowly made his way up my leg. I smiled and leaned back in my seat knowing to his delight what he would find. He moaned as he found no panties.  I was bare, warm and wet as his fingers found their way home, caressing my sex and then slipping inside me.  NB is a big man with big hands and long, wide, soft fingers. His skin is like velvet and when they find their way home deep inside me I instinctively wrap my warm folds around them never wanting that wonderful feeling to end.  There is a chemistry between people that can either repel or attract.  The chemistry between us has always been incredibly strong.  His touch, where ever it lands on or inside me is a feeling as if my body has waited for him all my life.  Waited, longed and yearned for his touch.

We left for Vegas Tuesday afternoon and arrived around 6pm.  The next few days were filled with his business activities, sight seeing for me and losing money at the slots!  And lots of food!  We tend to eat more when on trips!  Don't we all.  Each night was filled with our intimate sexual activities and not falling asleep until 4am.  All along, in the back of my mind, was pegging!  He didn't know what I had planned and I was waiting for the right time when I knew he would be relaxed and ready to follow my lead.  Wednesday night we decided to stay an extra day.  We were tired and just wanted to sleep in and spend the next day leisurely together then take in a show that night, heading back to CA on Friday.  I smiled with our decision knowing this would fit perfectly into my plan! :)

Thursday morning arrived and we woke up around 9am after another late night of play.  NB was warm and relaxed with no meetings or calls to attend to. We snuggled our warm, naked bodies together as his head rested on my breast, his mouth finding its way to its nipple.  While he happily suckled and me running my fingers through his hair I brought up my plan.  I knew he was in the perfect frame of mind to accept.

"Baby...Do you remember our talks about how much I need to have all of you?"

"Mmmmmm...yes." He mumbled through his filled content mouth.

"I know it makes you nervous when I talk about taking your beautiful ass... but god, how I need to do that." I kept holding him close to my breast, while still running my fingers through his hair. "I need to have all of you.  I crave to have all of you. I need to see you surrender everything to me. Trust me with your most vulnerable, intimate parts."

"Mmmmm...." He kept suckling and holding me tighter for security, but nodding his head in agreement.

"But you need to be prepared before I take you with my strap-on.  I need to train you to relax so that you can fully enjoy it when I do."

He let go of my breast and wrapped his arms tightly around me.  I was already drifting into a very lovely Domme space feeling his surrender melting around me.  A rush of warmth flowed over me as NB moved from lover to submissive and I as the woman he worshiped.  As he went into the bathroom to wash and prepare for his new adventure I got out my supplies to lay on the night stand.  Gloves, lube, (pineapple), anal plug with insert-able bullet, condom for plug and combination cock ring and harness.  Although I had wanted to be dressed in my Domme attire, I didn't want to give him time to lose the space he was now wonderfully in or the feel of the moment.

I first had him lie on his back.  I laid over him, resting my body against him, holding his face in my hands, kissing, loving and relaxing him as I slowly moved down his body with reassurance that all will be well.  I reached for the cock ring and harness and slipped the ring over his member. NB has big balls, which I love, and it was a challenge to gather them up and get the harness around them. But after multiple tries I finally was able to click it together on the last snap.  My hands moved around his thighs, along his inner thighs and then along his shaft and balls.  Massaging, licking, sucking, enjoying what was laid out before me. NB laid there watching, breathing and responding with soft moans.  I then told him to roll over onto all fours and display himself for me. As he did I reached for the lube, gloves, anal plug and bullet.

His head was down, cradled in his hands, legs spread, ass up and waiting.  Before I did anything more, I ran my hands over his smooth ass, kissed it, gave it soft bites and ran my hands over the small of his back and cheeks again.  I was in a very happy place.  Seeing him present himself to me. Willingly, desiring to bring me pleasure. I poured some flavored lubed down along the crack of his ass and rubbed it in, making sure it ran all the way to his opening. I smoothed it into his cheeks and down along his crack just brushing along his opening, teasing and loving every moment. Also letting the lube drip along his balls that were hanging and massaging the lube into them while reaching up to his shaft and sliding my hand along his flesh.  I reached for the glove and maneuvered my hand inside and grabbed more lube. After pouring more along his crack to his opening, I began to massage his opening with one of my gloved fingers.  He was so tight!

"Baby, breathe...relax and concentrate on how you feel. Get lost in the sensation of feeling."

"Yes." He softly replied with his head still buried in his hands.

I took my time.  Just as I told him I would.  Slowly I worked my finger around and around until he started to relax and finally one finger was able to slip in.  OMG...So tight!  I thought to myself, I hope I'm able to even get the plug in at all.  But I kept at it.  I was determined to achieve what I had set out to do.  To have him completely surrender to me. Finally two fingers and I knew he was ready.  He felt so good.  So tight.  I put the condom over the plug.  (I always do whether its a plug or the dildo for my strap-on...It makes clean up so much easier!)  Because it came with the insert-able bullet it had a nice hole I could put my finger into to guide it along inside him.  Love it!  Slowly first just the tip, then more and more.  All along I'm rubbing his cheeks, kissing them, fondling his cock and balls, asking him how he is doing and telling him what a good job he is doing and how happy he is making me. Then finally... it's all the way in as he moans with the sensation.  I grab the bullet and insert it into the plug and push the button to turn it on.  A small low hum is heard.

More moaning as I move the plug in circles inside him and in and out hitting every nerve found there along with his prostate.  I kissed and nipped at his round cheeks while I continue to fondle his cock and balls.  I then had him clench his anus muscles and had him move on to his back, keeping the plug in place. I reached down and found it had started to slip out a little and gently moved it back in place.  Now on his back I could see his face and really tease and play with him. His nipples are very sensitive and I had a great time pinching, rubbing, biting and sucking on them while I continued to fondle him.

I had this wonderful playground before me and enjoyed every inch of it!  Not wanting to over use his canal the first time I finally removed the plug gently from his hole and removed the cock ring and harness. I was so wet and ready for him.  I needed to feel his power and strength around and through me. I climbed on top of him as he thanked me for being so gentle. We kissed, touched, explored the landscape of each other and made love.  His vulnerable surrender still washing sweetly over me.

The preparation for those who are not sure how they'll feel about pegging is vital in earning their trust. Now NB is relaxed and very open to me exploring his opening anytime we play and I look forward to when he comes to visit for the holidays because he's coming to me and I'll have everything with me.  Harness and all!  I'm excited to take this next step with him.

My ex-sub was experienced with anal play, so I never had to do any prep with him and we had a wonderful time.  There are many men who have no problem with this kind of sexual play.  But there are those whether they be Dom or sub who have their own reasons for saying no, or are nervous when you bring it up. It's exciting to me when you have a partner who at first was reluctant and now through the trust of your relationship agrees and you have the opportunity to open another world to them.  Expanding the pleasures to share with one another.  Damn I find that exciting!

Cheers for more men who love pegging!!!!

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Pets, Training and Lustful Ways

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One of the 'Perks' I have come across in my journey as a Mistress is the wonderful discovery of 'Pets'.  Now, this is my own definition and one that many may not agree with.  But as a strong-willed woman, My definition works for me. ;)

A 'Pet' in my world is a submissive man of a younger age that I'm not looking at as a LTR. Not to say that if in a LTR my submissive man would not be referred to in that way at times.  Confused yet? ;)  Hopefully not!  But when approached by a younger man ( thank you cougar era! ) who has fallen victim to my lustful, passionate ways and desires to surrender his innocence and learn of his own passionate, lustful and deviant ways, who am I to turn this delicious offering away!

Training: Some people are not comfortable with that word.  For me it works.  I don't see it as corporal or having to do with harsh punishment. It's only the following through of mutually discussed activities that bring growth and great pleasure to both parties involved.

As his Mistress I am given his deepest secrets and desires. He may reveal some dark places in his soul that no one but him knows lurks there.  These images that sometimes keep him awake at night with lust and yearning but fear and the thought of rejection keep him from seeking out the avenue for release and exploration.  I see my responsibility in giving him that safe place to explore and in return I enjoy the beauty of his surrender, growth and trust.

I am but a journey for him.  Not a destination.  I am his teacher and mentor.  He is my joy and current passion.  We mark each other's soul.