Looking for a Few Good Men!

And when I say a few good men, it would be nice to have a few to choose from! My definition of a man is a male over 40! Until then they are 'boys' in training. There are always exceptions to that definition. I've met a few that stray far from it. Mature beyond their years. Others I've known never break through training camp! Being that 'older' women have been the rage for a while I've had my moments of enjoying the attention of a younger man. I do enjoy looking at them and when I find one I like, playing with them...but the attraction wanes quickly for I yearn for the maturity of a man.

A man who understands his own sexuality. Comfortable in his skin. Full of wonder, awe and adventure. Understands that 'cock into pussy' is not the ultimate goal! That there are many mile stones of pleasure along the way. A man who has learned the road map of a woman's body and especially the woman he now desires. A man that is open and responsive to my definition of pleasure.

Newbies in D/s and younger men have become my 'Kryptonite'. They drain me with their inability to commit to a decision. To follow through with their words and think thoroughly through promises before speaking them. Their excitement and enthusiasm can be contagious as adrenalin pumps through their brain and cock. I take the risk, because hell why not...look at them! But the disappointment in their inability to pull the trigger on their own wants and desires has left a bad taste in my mouth.

So in the effort to keep my heart from becoming jaded I'm swearing off men under 40! To clarify: Those who I have a personal face to face, R/L connection with. In wisdom I should probably cut it off at 50...but men are just starting to come into their own in their 40's! I'm not turning my back on that. But I am swearing off newbies of ALL ages! Just no patience for them! Damn! A woman just wants to have what she wants without the damn drama! I don't want to 'break' someone in; explain about my kinks and help them discover theirs.

I want men that are well versed in their dark ways and have a desire to discover how their demons play well with mine.

So where are the healthy, intelligent, adventurous, handsome, physically fit, mature dark souls that won't run from but to my dark playhouse?

Looking for a Few Good Men.

Yes!  Put the young ones behind glass to enjoy until they reach 40! 

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The Strength and Feel of His Cock

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Sometimes all I really need is to feel the strength of his body pressed against me; our sweat mixed gloriously together into a natural lube as our flesh slides back and forth; his arms firmly around me in the very vanilla missionary position; his face nestled in the curve of my neck; his breathing hot and welcoming.

It had been weeks. Six and a half to be exact. Too long to only hang on memories as my body craved his touch. His lips warmed against mine at the first kiss and embrace. No thoughts of anything but the feel of his body pressing against my own as my hand found the growing cock tucked away in his pants, dripping and aching to be free.

In my room he stood naked before me, my eyes enjoying him again, finally. His cock pointing in my direction. Firm, veins bulging, dripping ... always dripping with anticipation.

More kissing, tasting, sucking, licking but finally cock and cunt needing to be joined once more. Hunger overtaking the desire to prolong the entry.

Feeling his slippery head tease against my silt, my cunt, dripping with her own juices, opens to welcome him home. We slowly move; our bodies are one. Muscles and flesh remembering the rhythm we have grown accustomed to.

We take our time, drinking in the pleasure of the other. Our bodies tightly pressed. My arms, legs wrapped firmly around him. I feel the strength of his cock slowly move against my walls, finding the sensitive spots with familiar knowledge. My muscles contract around his shaft to increase the friction. His cock pulses inside me and I pull him deeper.  He continues to hold me close, both melting into the other. The rhythm between us varies as we build each others arousal. I don't want it to end. I want this feeling....always.

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Perverted Lust & Obsessive Adoration Required!

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In these last few months of being single I have needed to reassess what my needs and desires are in men. While NB was in my life I entertained some subs but mostly men who were switches.  I really thought that desire for switches would continue, but have found recently it leaves me wanting for more.  I also realized that before my need for worship, adoration and obsessive lust toward me was filled by NB.  I didn't think much about it and how it effected me until now. Now I know his need was matched by my own.

It's been a great revelation to me and freeing to understand more what triggers the dom in me and those desires that only a genuine submissive man can bring out. I admit, I've been spoiled. I know that look of hunger, the obsessive lust and adoration cocktail that swirls within the soul of a submissive man. He becomes stripped of his power, helpless in my arms and surrenders all his strength just to lie by my side. His heart is laid bare before me; His eyes are filled with passion as he longs for a drink and taste of me. What mortal soul does not become addicted to that!

So my journey continues .... Submissive men need only apply.  I'm not asking you to fall in love with me, but perverted lust and obsessive adoration would be a requirement.

~ I am smiling and my heart warming at the thought ~

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Sexual Compatibility!

No matter what the relationship is: Vanilla, F/m, M/f, M/s, BDSM, D/s or any gender blend; what holds a relationship together as a foundation is friendship. Enjoying the company of the other person, even if you're just 'hanging out' doing nothing special at all. You just enjoy their company. You feel relaxed and yourself in their presence. Laughter comes easy and you are blissfully unaware of any insecurities, weaknesses and failures you may have of yourself. Mix this with sexual compatibility and you have something priceless! Friendship is the foundation but sexual compatibility is an important building block that determines how high that fortress you are building goes.

The nurturing, trust and openness that comes from a strong friendship clears the way for communication that exposes all the dark and suppressed secrets. Here is where sexual compatibility is discovered and a beautiful journey begins that can last for many years.

I know of so many couples, especially married couples, that stay together for children or financial reasons but have found that they are not sexually compatible and at least one, if not both people, are lonely and suffering in the same house. I have been there and it is the loneliest of existence. So with experience under my belt I have learned and am determined in my soul to not find myself in that situation again.  The only way to ensure that is to live an honest and authentic life.

Two people meet and lust colors their attraction and sometimes out of fear of losing the other one agrees and goes along with their wants and desires or the other holds back on revealing their wants and desires out of fear of turning the other away. Fear of revealing our true nature will eventually destroy any intimacy that has developed. Compromising our sexual needs, desires and thinking 'love' is enough will eventually leave you thirsty and hungry for what you have been denied. You are no longer validated as important.  Your voice and needs remain unheard, unmet.

We must know ourselves and be honest with ourselves and others.  It's just not worth it to hide out of fear of discovery!  Your peace, happiness and fulfillment are yours to have. Live fully as the person you were meant to be.

If you're in a committed relationship already that is unsatisfying I'm not saying to abandon the ship! You have chosen your path and need to own up to it and live it out.  But if ever given the opportunity again to live according to the truth of who you are, then do it!  Until then, be honest with the partner you have and try to make it work in all transparency.

To those who are single.... Don't ever settle. The worst thing in life is to end up with someone who makes you feel alone. It's better to be alone and true to yourself than to live half of a life. I believe that once you know who you are and what you want, that the laws of attraction kick in and bring those of the same desires into your life.

I am hopeful for the future. We are all wired sexually in a unique way. It's the magic of finding those who are wired in a complementary way that brings the level of intimacy that I at least must have! I'm a passionate soul and must have that returned in a partner, plus much more! I love this saying below.  Intimacy born out of knowing and full surrender... Mmmmmmmmm

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It's not about Denial, but about Control.

The sound of your arousal explodes against my senses with electric feelings rushing down through my veins.  Having had you come inside me twice already in the last 30 mins; seeing you reclining upon the bed beside me, exhausted, your cock, flaccid and resting; I reach for you once again and hear your deep sigh.  You know I haven't had enough for the night.

Why would I desire to deny myself the enjoyment and entertainment of pushing you to your orgasmic edge over and over and eventually feel and hear your body scream and convulse through it's final release?  Your cock belongs to me and me alone.  I decide when it gets to enjoy the warmth of my warm tight walls wrapped around him or the feel of my mouth encasing your shaft as my tongue dances along it's long and thick length.

I love how you struggle to hold back, veins filling with blood, and eventually giving in and wondering if there is any more of your seed left to spill.  Then from a place you never knew existed inside you comes a deep roar as the last of that hidden seed finds it's way to escape out of your sensitive slit. By now you're 1/3 off the bed, grabbing onto the legs of the near by nightstand and holding on, your fingers tightly wrapped around it's legs.  You hear a scream and realize it's your own as you feel my mouth continue to move up and down your shaft and my hands pumping the last of your seed from your drained balls.

I look up at the exhaustion spreading over your face as you tell me you can't open your eyes. They've been held tightly for to long.  Why would I deny myself such a spectacular show of lust and passion. I'm too selfish to deny myself that pleasure.  And with each orgasm, I own you a little bit more.

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Testosterone! Don't Leave Home Without it!

Staying Healthy, Hard and Ready!

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Male menopause is not something you hear a lot about, but it should be shouted from the rooftops so that men would accept this normal change in their lives and get help to start feeling alive again. Not every man has symptoms. Some men if they are extremely healthy and active can still produce testosterone at a high level. But that is the exception. Some of the medical help available in this country is wrapped around culture and social norms instead of facts. FACT: Men go through a drop in hormones just as women do, although the symptoms are not 'in your face' and 'bigger than life' than what women experience. It slowly creeps up on a man until he resigns himself that it's just part of the aging process. Well...so is disease and you would get help for that wouldn't you? I have taken bio-identical hormones for over two years and would never want to go back to the dark days of being hormone deficient! This is a subject that NB and I have discussed at great length. And it's amazing the Doctors that have discouraged him from looking into it. But we have found some clinics close to where he has moved that specialize in hormone therapy for men and I'm excited for him to check them out. I am a true believer in replacing in our bodies naturally what they have used to keep us healthy and strong. Would you stop feeding your favorite plant fertilizer because it was time for it to grow old? So you decide to deprive it of what made it healthy?

Men, look over these symptoms and honestly ask yourself if you have any of them. Chances are if you are over 50+ you'll say yes.

Symptoms of Testosterone Deficiency (Androgen Deficiency)

• Loss of energy
• Brain Fog
• Decrease mental quickness
• Diminished libido
• Decrease orgasmic intensity
• Loss of strength
• Loss of muscle flexibility
• Prolonged recovery from exercise
• Loss of cardiac protection
• High cholesterol
• High LDL Cholesterol
• Weight gain
• Fat increase especially mid abdominal
• Loss of endurance
• Depression
• Fear
• Anxiety
• Sleep disturbances
• Difficulty converting fat to lean muscle mass with increased exercise
• Osteoporosis

Testosterone levels begin to decline at 30 years of age, and the typical male's testosterone declines by approximately 10% per decade. We are living longer and need our lives to be productive and full of great sexual energy! There is no reason why men or women should give in to the mind set of what they think a certain chronological age should look and feel like. Women need testosterone also. Replacing hormones for both men and women will hopefully become a common occurrence as time passes.

I encourage all to Google (bio identical hormones ) and do your own research.  

Men!!! We need you hard, focused, alert and hungry for many more years! ;)