Thursday, October 30, 2014

Finding Shelter in the Shadows.

When I think of shadows I think of someone being guarded from the light. From the heat of discovery...but yet feeling the indirect warmth of the sun against his human form. Not quite hidden. There are small parts of the body visible, but only a trained eye could make it out. He feels safe there in the shadows, but also somehow involved in the activity he seeks. Vicariously he lives through his imagination, projecting himself into a reality of what is before him. Soon the watching isn't enough and vocally he makes himself known. Inch by inch he moves slowly into the light. He's encouraged by a hand reaching out to him, offering assistance and direction.

He's lived so long with his fantasies that the light of exposure to his nature unmasked to another is frightening. Some find the compatible guide for their need and a journey begins of self discovery and acceptance. Some never find that guide. Others rarely leave the shelter of the shadows. The existence of the later group is lonely and their true identity hidden from the world. Those are the ones who put themselves in danger because they become a victim to the need and desire that continues to build until they rush out of the shadows with reckless abandon looking for any fix; at whatever cost. Later with head hanging down and soul empty they crawl back into the shadows. Any satisfaction dissipates quickly as once again humiliation and disgust settles in with the reality that they have placed themselves in danger for what they consider a base need. When the sun starts to set, the temperature in the shadows drops farther then it does for the rest of the world. So it seems. Isolated, cold and alone they swear never again to risk exposure. But their history knows better. There will be another time.

Some call these marks of life the traits of addiction. In this case sexual addiction. Is there really such a thing? Could the truth possibly be that not all people fit into what society calls the social norm? And that while trying to 'Fit In' they lose themselves? They already feel an outsider and fear keeps them from risking more rejection in seeking those who would accept them. Is this why the shadows are more desirable than speaking and discovering truths? More desirable than seeking those in their lives that would give them a secure place to dwell in the sun light? Is this not what a healthy life is about? To seek those who will say, "I accept all that you are and you are welcome here" ? Is that not the premise of an alternative lifestyle? And why do we even need an alternative? Who has defined 'normal'?

Communication without judgement, listening and hearing others; that to me is the sunlight. Openness, acceptance, wisdom, learning and the understanding of why we are the way we are; these are the true treasures of wealth. Finding a place to live a life full of the true expression of who lives within us. This kind of freedom releases creativity and brilliance because the whole person has emerged. Is that not a desire common among mankind? And if it isn't? Why isn't it?

Some say it is brave to think and live that way. I say life is too short to not live your own life. If you don't discover and live the fullness of who you are, who will? The world is waiting for YOU to show up. With all your beautiful flaws and uniqueness. Not a carbon copy of others. But YOU. Let's be brave together. Let us help each other out of the shadows.

Comfort ~ Acceptance ~ Wholeness

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site Sexual Destinies!

Winter is approaching. It's grey and cold outside and I'm recovering from a cold!  Yes...I'm feeling cranky!! Get over it and put on that damn cage!!!!!

And the tattoo is wonderful also!!!! 

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Hunger Only Satisfied by What it Craves!

Sexual Hunger! Our body craving satisfaction from what it's stubbornly determined it needs to be filled and satisfied. At times it's strictly a base need as the image above. A need for release, no matter how it's achieved. And sometimes it's for the soul that inhabits a body that you physically crave. Physical release alone would leave you wanting. Only the one who you crave can fill that need and satisfy your desires. 

You hunger for the one who has captured your soul. An appetite has been created and your body craves to feel again the rush of it's first exposure. An awakening rises from deep inside that almost draws tears to the surface when you stop and dwell on it's effect. You become obsessed with how his words fall around, crawl inside and wrap you in brutal sensuality. Your hand pushes him away out of fear of being exposed and laid bare of your armor. 

He has become an addiction to your chemical balance of life. You bring others in to drown out his face and words. But in the throes of what should be ecstasy is only a deep cry for him. You only reach a sliver of fulfillment by closing your eyes, seeing his face and hearing his words. Imagining his heart beating against you; his spirit touching yours and his soul spilling into your own. Their touch reminds you of the hunger only he can satiate. Only that which it craves can calm and satisfy the built up desire that is calling out for his attention. 

He has crawled into every fiber of your being. His words threaten to pierce through your shield and the rawness of your emotions stir and escape without warning before him. 

Much to your dismay and fear your hunger for him only increases each day. Logic reminds you he is only a pause in your journey. But the hunger screams louder, "Enjoy every morsel with no regrets!"

Sunday, October 19, 2014

e[lust] edition #63 ~ Enjoy!

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Saturday, October 18, 2014

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site Sexual Destinies!

Today's theme...Morning love! Following in the theme of my last post: Finding You Beside Me. Below are the images that come to my mind as I find him there.  xxoo


Mmmm... More awakening....

Hush now. Come back to bed.

Stretching for another round....

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Finding You Beside Me....

It had been a restless night. The pattern of sleeping alone suddenly disturbed by any minor movements of your body next to me. The intensity of our relationship over the several months since we had met was still swirling through my being leaving trails of questions mixed with arousal on how long would the fire between us burn. "Hush", you would whispered to me at any sign of doubt rising. "Hush, baby, hush", you whispered in my ear and kissed your way back to my questioning mouth. "Hush". Then drawing me tighter into yourself.

Throughout the night I felt you reaching for me, your hands grasping at my breast as you wrapped yourself around me...enclosing me in your desires. Me whispering in your ear, "I want you sleeping inside me."; my words awakening your body to fulfill my hunger for you. Your cock slipping between my legs and finding it's home inside me once again. Me remembering as I back up into your warm body that only a few hours before it was you backing up against me as I took that beautiful ass of yours again.

And now morning has crept into our room threatening to shorten our time together. I slowly rise out of bed so not to disturb you. You continue to sleep in peace. I watch the shadows form and move over you lying naked, sunlight peering through the blinds. I study your half open sleepy mouth and smile at how it lavishly poured out attention from my neck, to my shoulders, breasts, hips and finally along my inner thighs until I pushed your head into me and felt that wet mouth and tongue pressing once more against my pussy. I memorize every part of you as my mouth starts to water and my need to taste you rises to cloud my judgement.

You shift in the bed and reach for me, eyes half open, "Baby?"

"Hush". I respond sliding in beside you. My hand finding it's way to your semi hard cock and warm balls. I wrap my hand around them and gently tug. "Hush, baby. Hush."

Morning can wait.

Saturday, October 11, 2014

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site Sexual Destinies!

Today's theme: Cocks. Because they are magical! And I'm in the mood to see them. Lots of them!


On Display

See! Magical!

Bonus! Just Because! Damn!

Monday, October 6, 2014

The Surrender of your Strength

The surrender of your strength to me does not mean you are stripped bare of it. It always thrives within you!

Just as you look into my eyes and your soul mixes with mine; your soul has not left you, but has mingled and touched my own. So is it with the strength that is woven throughout your being. As you look at me I see that strength start to rise to the surface. I see it in your eyes, in the way your body starts to move. Even in the way you stand before me. And instead of your strength overpowering me, you stoop down and pour it out as an offering. That gesture feeds me and I can feel the power of your surrender ignite my desire for you even more than it was the moment before. 

I am your resting place. Your mirror. And your perfect storm. You are anchored in my soul. Your surrender keeps me warm. 

Saturday, October 4, 2014

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site Sexual Destinies!

Today's Eye Candy features a very hot, sensuous and darling friend of mine, NYC. He makes very pretty pics. {big smile} And yes...everything is lovely about him. His Tumblr blog is NYC Wonders. Drop by and give him some love. His hungry Italian heart will be thrilled.

Should I let him sleep or take that beautiful ass one more time? 

The only way he's allowed in the kitchen.

Beautiful! Gorgeous cock, commando in jeans, chain = heaven. C'mere!

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Seeing According to Your Thoughts.

It's our brains that see...understanding that makes it easier to also understand that we see the world around us according to our opinions and thought patterns. Our belief system and own code of ethics. What is a sin to some is a source of freedom for another. The problem for many arises when there are so many voices speaking from society telling people what is acceptable and right. What is truth? Whether it's vanilla mainstream or alternatives lifestyles...the question is there. Different opinions of what is right, what is truth. What is acceptable so society keeps functioning and does not breakdown. Whether it's about who can marry, who can adopt, who has final authority over their own lives. It comes down to how people see the world around them. What they consider a safe, comfortable and stable society.

Cultures and different societies live and build according to what they believe. They have their own thought system that has become normal and acceptable in their culture. This effects all aspects of our lives. We bump into it whether its projected in the media, politics, school systems or religions. Sexuality seemly being the taboo subject. As if talking about it will give you STDs! It's the undercurrent that most of us are naturally drawn to, yet the voice of shame still tries to rob us of that joy and pleasure. Secrets are hidden in dark corners or the seemly safe oasis of the alternative lifestyle. 

We all do not 'see' the same! Our thoughts, actions and reactions are the culmination of the world that surrounds us and has taught us what is normal. I know what is important to me. What makes me happy. What triggers me sexually and drives me as a dominant with a submissive man. It's not going to be the same for another female dominant two doors down. Just as not every submissive man is going to trigger that drive in me to 'take him', 'want him', 'own him'. 

Is it impossible to hope for a society that could understand and accept individual thoughts and lives instead of saying, "That's out of my comfort zone, so it must be wrong." ?

We truly all live according to how we 'see' life. We have our own code of ethics, boundaries and limits. I draw to me those who are like minded. 'Like' always attracts 'like'. It makes my life flow better. And for those who can't seem to's really OK. You're welcome in my world as long as we each respect each other's 'seeing'. ;)

~ Vista