Sunday, November 25, 2012

Preparing for Pegging Adventures!

Early Monday morning I fly out to meet NB in CA, then we drive out to Vegas on Tuesday for some business he has there, back on Thursday to CA and home again for me Friday. We have some light plans.  I know we'll take in a show while in Vegas and have lots of time for play and probably little sleep!  We tend not to sleep much when we are together!  I believe it's all the time we spend apart and his surprise when he wakes in the middle of the night and finds me there next to him. He immediately goes into explorer mode and I'm his treasure. But I have some surprises for him on this trip. We've talked about 'pegging' before. The topic intrigues him, excites him and makes him very nervous.  I love it!  We never seemed to have the time to get to it in the past.  And I'm going through major pegging withdrawals! The last time was back in June with my ex sub!

The problem for me is flying with my harness my luggage.  I've had friends who had their's taken during baggage inspection! When I fly, I hide my toys and what small amount of rope I bring (mainly para chord) all through my luggage to hopefully not draw too much attention from those 'elves' who go through your bags without you being there to make sure all contents are put back! I'd be livid if my harness was taken!  I like a sturdy harness that moves well with me and I paid good money for mine! So the harness will have to stay behind and the official pegging ceremony will have to wait until December when he flies out to see me for the holidays. But there are many other ways to prepare his virgin ass until then.  (*Big Smile*)

NB is still going through some personal transition time and hasn't been too open lately or feeling very playful.  (I'm looking forward to when he bounces back full time to the man I fell in love with.) So I'm hoping with all my preparation plans I have for him plus some other intriguing surprises, that it will help him find his mojo again.  Nothing like him seeing me in fishnet stockings, corset and toys in hand for him to rise to the occasion!  Oh...and lots of lube!

Saturday, November 24, 2012

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that some Saturdays I have way too much time on my hands, here is a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

Mmmmm  Kilts!  You have to love Kilts for the one main reason that most, if not all, men who wear them go commando!!!!  Then you combine all of that with great Ink and a nice Ass Shot with Hand....and you have my Saturday Eye Candy selections for today!  A delicious treat!

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Passion and the Need of Touch.

Touch has it's own language and leaves its own pathway along our brain and soul. I use to work with troubled youth in school districts and because of our society and culture these days you were not allowed to touch or give them a hug.  You could ask them for permission but even that was frowned upon.  The decision, because of liability issues, was that you could help, heal, comfort without touching them. Even reaching out to hold a hand was questioned. Being the rebel I am and a very big hugger, I was always hugging, after asking their permission first.  Because I know unless there is human touch there is no lasting connection.  Good touch, over time, can erase the markings of bad touch or lack of touch in someone's life.

Touching whether sexual or non sexual is bonding.  We either repel from the bond trying to be created or we welcome and allow it to touch our soul. A tender touch from a caring soul can unleash a flood of tears you were not aware was lurking behind your eyes and break the damn within your heart.

Touch awakens passion within us.  It starts to trigger our senses and reminds us we are alive. Nerve endings stir, and in a sexual setting, arousal stirs and our bodies start to relax and excite at the same time as we flow into the sea of passion.

There wasn't a lot of touching from my parents when I was growing up.  It was the time when children were 'seen and not heard' and we seemed to be more ornaments in the home than living beings. I craved 'touch' and when I had my own children I poured out my affection all over them! We are a very touchy family. My middle daughter's nickname is 'Kitten' because she would crawl up on my lap, cuddle into me and ask me to rub her back and play with her hair. Even to this day, as an adult, she'll do that!  I do honestly believe that this is how my 'petting' fetish developed!  ;)

Recently while in Las Vegas with NB we were watching a live show and I was snuggled up to him with my right arm and hand along side his left. After a while he leaned over to me and said, "You've been 'petting' me for the last 20 mins."  I was totally unaware of what I was doing and of course it was starting to get to him! We talked about my 'petting' fetish after and I realized that for me, it brought me comfort and a feeling of connection as I was enjoying our time together.

Touch is critical in my life.  I have ended relationships when it wasn't there in the way I've needed it.  It's a form of non verbal communication that sometimes says so much more than words can convey. In my life it's wrapped up in the passion that lies inside me and expresses the emotional state of my heart and soul. If you reject my touch, you reject my core being.  It's like a knife cutting through the depths of my heart.

I have lived a lot of my life surrounded by pain and death in my life journey. Life is too short to deny the basic human needs that live within each of us. To close our eyes to what we need deep inside and deny passion is a loss to all. There is great beauty to be found in life and those who embrace passion and recognize the healing power of a human touch seem to find it easier than others. But passion lies within all of us.

I came across this quote below from Joss Whedon on my Tumblr a few days ago.

"Passion.  It lies in all of us. Sleeping...waiting...and though unwanted, unbidden, it will its jaws and howl.  It speaks to us...guides us.  Passion rules us all.  And we obey.  What other choice do we have?  Passion is the source of our finest moments.  The joy of love...the clarity of hatred...the ecstasy of grief.  It hurts sometimes more than we can bear.  If we could live without passion, maybe we'd know some kind of peace.  But we would be hollow.  Empty rooms, shuttered and dank. Without passion, we'd be truly dead."
~ Joss Whedon ( Buffy the Vampire Slayer)

Another form of 'petting' I enjoy.......

Saturday, November 17, 2012

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that some Saturdays I have way too much time on my hands, here is a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

Mmmmm... Both sides ...very beautiful.  Love the birds on the side of his torso. And both pics incorporate their hand.  Both images lovely and dreamy on a cloudy, dreary, rainy day in the NW.

Also adding this Eye Candy below.  A departure from what I normally post...but how beautiful are these corsets!!!!!!

Friday, November 16, 2012

e[lust] edition #41 ~ Enjoy!

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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
The 2 weeks of my sex life I lost to Zoloft - "My G-spot felt non-existent. My clit felt numb. The masturbation didn’t hold my interest, and my mind wandered."
Baby Girl - "You fill me with a desire to learn so that I can teach you. I push you to trust yourself as I trust you."
Denial - "“Not yet,” he says, pulling both of my arms back, leaving my clit screaming for attention."

~ e[lust] Editress ~
Dangerous Lilly

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
Thoughts: Contractual Considerations
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Challenging Sexy
Open Me Up
How this blog started
Speaking of NRE

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
How to Pack for a Con
Rape Culture Rant
The Female Orgasm: A Brief History, Part 1

Kink & Fetish
Ball Gag Safety For Beginners
Choose one word to describe yourself
Drawing out hurt
Dirty, Nasty, Perfect
Evolution of a new fetish: veiling erotic
It was always a trap...
The Panty Loan
Watersports: Not As Easy As It Sounds

Erotic Writing
A Writing Challenge - Blindfold
about to be devoured
Blow Me Away
Girls' Night Out
Hot Girls with Gay Bodyguards
Leaving You Wasted!
Lolita Twenty-Twelve, Part Sexeh and Sexbee
Vampire girl #14

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

The Intoxication of a Mature Man

I know it may seem that I have an addiction to young beautifully built men as can be seen by my 'Saturday Eye Candy' pics!  But they are just that to me...Eye Candy.  Yummy morsels to scan and enjoy.  But when it comes to the intoxicating feeling I can get from the image of a man...give me a mature man every time!

Their bodies are well seasoned and marked from the journey it has been on.  Stories of their past unfolds as they move underneath your hands and respond to your touch. Mature men know how to use their body to respond to that touch; are well aware of their own trigger points and have hopefully learned how to use their cock to tease and satisfy a woman.  No matter it's length or girth.  His fingers know when to be gentle and when to push and prod with passion while he encourages the beauty from a woman.

But even more intoxicating is the mind and soul of a mature man.  His eyes reveal his acquired knowledge of life through joys, triumph and heartache.  His heart breaks through in times of passion with secrets learned from many journeys and whispers them gently in your ear.  He's more comfortable in his skin and unashamedly shows it off...even if not perfect.  And he's hopefully learned the skill of how to look into the soul of a woman and find the treasure and call it forth.

Such is the intoxication I find in the form, mind and soul of mature men.

Below: Some 'Mature Eye Candy'.... ;)

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that some Saturdays I have way too much time on my hands, here is a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

A modern version of Michelangelo's David. Beautiful man and beautifully done photo.  His features, his pose, the strength of his body tone not overly cut and the lighting.  Just beautiful!  I could stare at him all day. 

Below the original.. ;)

Thursday, November 8, 2012

Hearts and Red Threads

Maybe you have notice, I know I have, that in your lifetime there are those people that seem to show up unexpectedly in your life and you know from the very first meeting that somehow they will have an impact on you and you on them.  I use to be naive enough to think that it was always a 'good' impact ... but as 'impacts' go some can leave you harmed and broken.  And maybe those have come to teach us lessons we need to learn in life. I don't know. But the majority of the people who have come into my life have blessed and enriched my life and hopefully they found the same true as far as my 'impact' on them.

Both of these images came across my Tumblr dashboard today and they both speak volumes to me. The first about the Red Thread connecting those who we are destined to meet and have them in our life.  Maybe only for a few days, maybe for months, years and for some a lifetime. Most of us can look back and point to those who have had this impact on us from the very first meeting. Some are people we go into business with, some are kindred spirits that have come to encourage and remind us of our goals and destiny.  Some become best friends, teachers, confidants and some, lovers. They are rarely forgotten.  They leave their mark on our souls.

But the best are the lovers. Hearts that are going about their daily business, unknowingly on a path that will intersect with the other, caused by that Red Thread.  And it seems immediately there is a 'knowing' about each other from the first look of the eyes or the combination of words put together in a sentence and conversations that say to your heart, "You are familiar to me."  And both hearts sense the connection. These are the connections in life with others that make life bearable in stressful and tough times.  They are the glue that holds our personal world together and gives us a reason to wake up each morning.

Celebrate those who are special gifts that are meant to enrich your life. Learn from those who may give you grief, but are still a gift nonetheless.

Monday, November 5, 2012

Transitions ~ Preparing for the Beauty and Lust ahead!

It's been a calm two weeks with NB back in CA handling some personal business along with work. I'm not very patient when it comes to transition times in my life.  I hate 'lulls' and just desire to move ahead to my next destination. 2012 has all been about transition and I'm feeling like shouting from the roof tops, "Enough is Enough!".  I know I still have some waiting time ahead as NB finishes going through his own transition and as I tell myself it will soon be over and we will eventually be settle into somewhat of a normal routine for our lives.  I sometimes wonder if there is such a thing! ;)  Our lives will never be what others describe as normal.  And that makes me happy.

Until then...I busy myself with work on my writing and research I've been doing for the past few months on a new page for this blog that will cover and give resources on information on the incredible wiring of our brain, how fluid it is, how magnificent it can heal and re-wire itself and how it all is connected to our sexually.  This was my original intent when I started this blog.  To dig deep into why we have the urges we do, and why somethings can't be explained away by childhood trauma, abuse etc.  I was never sexually abused as a child and for that I am thankful.  But I did suffer loss as a child.  My mother died when I was 10 and being the oldest of two children, that loss seemed to amp up the dominate nature that was already showing itself.

So as I've explored more into my own sexuality, I have gone on a quest to find answers and am hoping once this page is done and functioning it will help my readers on their own journeys of understanding themselves and those in their lives better.  The excitement of seeing that accomplished keeps me going through this transition period I find myself in.

I am thankful for those who follow along with this blog, taking a peak into my life, mind and soul and I desire the most life has to offer to enrich your lives.

I so love this image below!  It expresses how I feel about sexuality, BDSM, D/s relationships and wanting to ravish myself in all life has to offer. A beautiful submissive man, bound, surrendered and the woman just ecstatic at everything he has given to her and represents! You Go Girl!!!! Grab life and indulge yourself!

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that some Saturdays I have way too much time on my hands, here is a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

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Got milk?  Fun play interaction.  Love how he tries to catch the milk running down his chest! 

It's going to be an interesting week next week with the elections and the East Coast still dealing with the destruction and heart ache of Sandy.  My heart goes out to all of those living in those torn areas.  Tough times!