Sunday, March 31, 2013

His Eyes Hungry. His Body Pleads: Use Me!

Recently I had a conversation with NB about submissive men and men in general.  We discussed how most of society sees, trains and portrays women as sexual objects and men as the dominant conquers.  We both agree that is a wide sweeping generalization of mankind and we are seeing that change at a slow pace in the people that cross our paths.  One of the main reasons I enjoy an alternative lifestyle is the freedom of people to be and/or discover who they are aside from the labels and definitions of culture and society.  What I have found over time is the exciting discovery of traditionally alpha men needing to fulfill a deep seated desire to be sexually objectified.  A desire I find thrilling and am willing to satisfy.

When a man finds himself in a sexual relationship/encounter with a woman who knows what she wants and has a need to use him to her satisfaction where she is doing the majority of the work, he finds it new territory and eventually freeing. This becomes very enlightening for him once he ventures into anal play.  For a man to surrender his strength and allow you to penetrate him, putting him in the receiving end while he lies there and feels you working the plug, fingers or dildo into his dark region is a turn of events and exchange of power. It also gives him a better idea and frame of reference of what it is like for you when it is his cock, fingers or toy penetrating your pussy or ass.  I think this is a great example of "Turn-about-is-fair-play."

One of the great things about anal play and pegging is that it teaches the man how important 'warm up' is!  ;)  He will put up a fight if you try to go balls deep into his ass and he's not ready!  It teaches a man the art of warm up, emotionally getting him ready if it's a new experience for him and how important his 'mood' plays into the event happening in a pleasing, erotic manner.  For women we find how much 'work' fucking someone can be.  But what a great workout of the hips, ass and thighs!  No wonder most men have great shaped asses!  It's all that thrusting they've been doing!

I personally love watching the different phrases a man goes through when it comes to introducing pegging and anal play.  First reaction is normally negative, but depending on the man, you can sense as you get to know him if this wall of resistance can come down brick by brick.  And if so, the journey of bringing him to this new discovery is absolutely delicious!  Watching him go from fearful and an ass as tight as a vice grip to one that opens and welcomes you willingly at your first touch is intoxicating!  Now I understand why NB gets so excited as my pussy slowly opens for him and welcomes him warmly.  To know you are bringing pleasure and are the cause of that rush of chemicals and euphoria washing over their body is powerful.  Women who only know the receiving end of this are missing the joy that comes from having that reversed.   

Eventually your man's thoughts are filled with you 'taking' him and using him as his hunger grows, his eyes express it and his body pleads to be used!  Objectified!  I love it!  This isn't for everyone, but does fit well with a dominant woman and sexually submissive man.  There are dominant men that have found this fitting for them and I know others who would never entertain the idea.  No problem. Throw out the labels and just enjoy who you are and what your body desires to explore with a partner that fits your needs.

I love this image below from my Tumblr.  He'll mount a counter-top, lift and spread his ass to the world.  He doesn't care what anyone thinks, his ass needs to be fucked and he's letting her know it!  ;)  I love it when a man has the freedom in himself to be down right Slutty!

Saturday, March 30, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that some Saturdays I have way too much time on my hands, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

The sun is shining today making the day so bright and beautiful.  Here are 3 lovely images to compliment that beauty.

Sunday, March 24, 2013

When a Man Presents His Ass......

No sweetheart, my desire to fuck your ass and your final willingness to present it to me does not make you gay. The fact that God designed your body that the best way for me to stimulate your prostate is through your ass is an issue you can someday take up with Him.  Other than that, enjoy the ride.  

Someday, and soon I hope, this will no longer be a stumbling block for straight men. Until then if you have a man in your life who seems timid about you exploring in his dark uncharted waters, it's up to you to open the gate to heaven for him.  And gently!  Strap-ons and toys are great, but before I use them I love using my fingers, gloved and all lubed up so I can feel his body responding to my touch as I use my other hand to play with his cock and balls. 

If you have been following my blog you'll remember the journey of bringing NB to this place of readiness. Well during our last visit to Vegas he finally surrendered all and it was worth the wait! It was glorious because he was ready, still a little timid, but at my very first touch of his sweet ass he opened up willingly!  He became so lost in the experience and I'm glad I was so patient with him. Sweet, hot memories.  And only the beginning!

Once men break through the mind set of sexual orientation being connected to a sexual act they can put pleasure in it's rightful place. Gay men are wonderful. Men who are bi I find very hot and intriguing. And straight men who have become free and sexually driven can be talked into a lot under the right circumstances.  ( Evil grin. )

I'm not going to go out on limb and say every man needs to get into anal play.  But I am saying to understand why you are saying no to it.  It's not a deal breaker for me and those I chose to have in my life. I have NB and he fills many of my kinky needs.  But it is a bonus.  As much as society tries to change who we are, we are sexual beings.  Our bodies will show that every time you relax and let it!

Below is a great video I ran across today that proves that very thing!  Here is a man with a very responsive body!  No matter what the surroundings!  Embrace your humanity!  Life is hard enough. Embrace that you have avenues of release!

Saturday, March 23, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that some Saturdays I have way too much time on my hands, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

This has been a busy, kinda crazy day, and to top it off my clothes dryer just stopped working!  So to make myself happy and you, here are three very nice ass pics to admire! xxoo

Friday, March 22, 2013

Secret Paths and Dark Shadows

Vulnerability, openness, raw communication and honesty. Some of the paths to intimacy. Emotions shared that run so deep that they cut your breath and make your heart tremble while you recount their details. Emotions and visions etched in your mind, heart and soul, birthed in childhood trauma, formed and rooted in your thoughts and sexual drive.  Thoughts so dark you've kept them to yourself and wore a mask most of your life, looking for that safe place to reveal your true identity. Who would love you if they knew you were not the man you presented to the world. If they knew the visions that sent blood rushing to your cock, your skin breaking out in a cold sweat and heat filling you with desire.  Nothing illegal, just thoughts not accepted by those who surround your everyday life.  You go through life carrying these dark shadows, wondering if there is anyone to walk the secrets paths with you, hold your hand as together you face those shadows one by one. Then when you thought it could never be, she is there. 

Her words shine a light into your darkness and she draws you close with her scent. You share, a little at first, then with each revealing and her acceptance you reveal more until you find yourself heady and walking down the secrets paths with her by your side. She draws you closer to her warmth and you both take steps toward shadows you've never shared. Mixed emotions start to fill your heart. Fear that you may walk into the darkness and lose your way.  Fear that ahead is a bottomless abyss, the same one that calls out to you in the night. Fear that you'll like the darkness and not want to go back.  But also hope that you've found the one who will walk with you and share in your fears, open your thoughts and share in your desires. 

Amazement starts to fill your being as you find the depth of the shadows to be much deeper than you had imagined as she leads you along the way.  It's the safety in her arms, her touch, her intoxicating aroma and her words that give you courage to explore it's depths.  The power she seems to hold over you, to take you to places you feared to acknowledge even existed.  But they were there, always living in your dreams. You feel her strength take your hand and you are led down those secrets paths, toward those dark shadows and are no longer afraid. You feel the false identities fall away, and in her presence you find peace. All of your unconventional ways and needs unconditionally accepted by this woman who sees right through you, instinctively knows you and still loves you.  In fact she needs you ... just the way you are. For you have shed a light upon her secret paths and exposed her own hidden dark shadows. 

Together you have found stability.  Together life has more meaning.  Confidence and courage have replaced uncertainty and doubt. Passion has taken on new meaning and intimacy finally has a form.

Sunday, March 17, 2013

e[lust] edition #44 ~ Enjoy!

Photo courtesy of Plumptious Pea

Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #45? Start with the newly updated rules, come back April 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Everyday D/s
Honesty sometimes feels like manipulation
Blood, life, sex

~ Featured Posts (Molly’s Picks) ~
Grief and Sex
Bringing Others into a Dom/Sub Relationship

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Adventures In… Lube-land
PolyAnna's Musings: Radar Love
A productive morning
Livia Has a Crush
Terms of Fatness

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Thoughts: Feminism, Sexism and Submission

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Deep subspace - sexy or scary?
Django Unchained: the suffering black female
What the hell is 'NORMAL' sex anyway?
All About the Collar
Dirty Little Secret

Erotic Fiction

Master's Valentine's ToDo List
The Passion of First Encounters.
Ma'am's Turn (First Meeting Part 3)
Nipple torture and girl love
The Boundary
I'm in the Mood
Lolita Twenty-Thirteen, Part Two
A Quick Preview

Erotic Non Fiction

Lindsey's Orgasm
Blog Jammin'
Postponing the Inevitable
Watching Has its Own Rewards
A Farewell Torment
I want to lick your pussy
Cap D'Agde 2012 Foam Party
Dirty Hot
Eighty-Five Minutes
Saying Goodnight
Hundreds of orgasms
our open marriage- mina's date
1+1+1= My first threesome
Writing Sex Scenes
Beginnings and Endings
Glass Bottle
One Cole the Dane + One WeVibe Salsa = Orgasm


Epiphora's beginner’s guide to sex toy review
Very Inspiring Blogger Award


Erotic Eroticon
Finessing Sex- A Snippet Of Fiction
Eroticon Highlights
Bite Me


In the Back Seat of the Bus
Oiled Seduction

Saturday, March 16, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that some Saturdays I have way too much time on my hands, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

His smile almost overshadows the rest of his lovely form...almost... ;)

Always instruct pets to cover their most tender parts when paying with fire.  

Yes... You may continue.... 

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Book Review - Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray & the Men Who Love Them.

There are books on the market that try to bring an explanation to the cuckold lifestyle. Some are good and from real life experiences and some are only buying in on the trend that seems to be increasing and looking to make quick cash. I see this increasing as this way of life for some couples becomes more exposed. I'm not a fan of the 'hotwife' trend and terminology only because of most of what is posted on the internet runs along the more 'kinky' aspect rather than what goes on in a relationship. The problem that causes is for some couples who have poor communication and find their marriages struggling thinking that this trend would be an answer and fix.  It's not.  In fact, in a relationship where there is strain and lack of trust and communication this lifestyle would be a sure silver bullet and bring death.

What is important in any relationship, whether it's vanilla or alternative, is honest, vulnerable communication.

David J Ley published in 2012, Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them. He started out curious about the cuckold lifestyle and not sure if he would find anything positive about the subject.  But as he researched history, current trends and interviewed many couples in the lifestyle he arrived at a more balanced opinion and even became supportive for those who are truly cut out for this, find it works for them and results in healthy strong relationships.

Again, this is only a working solution for a small percentage of the population who can handle the emotional dance and roller-coaster of emotions involved.  For those who master that ride and dance it can become heaven on earth.  ;)

Here are some of the excepts from Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them:

  • "Many husbands I interviewed described similar feelings, and explained their desires to watch their wives with other men, saying that they prefer to watch their wive's faces during sex.  If all they wanted was to see genitalia and sexual intercourse, they'd watch pornography.  "What is important to me is to watch the face of the woman I love enjoying herself." Chapter 4 - Interview with Michael and Janice, EB location 2050.
  • Violet Gordon Woodhouse, one of the greatest pianists of the early years of the twentieth century, lived for decades with not one, but four husbands. . ...their unique arrangement was interrupted by World War 1,  and never returned to this polyamorous stability. Chapter 5, EB location 2283
  • Indeed, couples who are able to pursue this lifestyle successfully for long periods of time tend to have extremely healthy relationships, and extraordinary patterns of communication within their marriage. Chapter 11- EB Location 4605

David J Ley does an excellent job in covering, in depth, the subject of cuckold relationships that have been around for centuries. If you love research, you'll appreciate the time he spent in researching history, lives and cultures.  How cuckolding has been woven through it all in one way or another.  He covers the hotwife trend, swinging, any non-monogamous relationship and what researchers have to say is the cause etc. And on the cause, many can not say why.  There are many reasons we become wired the way we are. For many, they can't point to one thing that changed for them and then there are those who understand why they have this need.

I agree with most of this book.  It's well rounded and covers the subject of cuckolding extremely well.  You'll find it listed on my Amazon 'I Recommend' book list.

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Sexual Wiring - Fact or Fiction / New Page

I'm excited about this new page of the blog.  I've been researching for a while on the wiring of our brain and why we have the desires and the sexual tendencies we have during our life.  And why those tendencies seem to evolve with time and maturity.  Or maybe we finally have the courage to say to the world, "Fuck You! This is what I need and want.  I'm not bringing harm to anyone but maybe you and your way of thinking!"

I know it has been a subject that has intrigued me for a long time and it wasn't until I met NB and finally found my own sexual destiny and happiness that I seriously started looking for answers. The books listed on the new page that I am recommending and can be found on my Amazon "I Recommend" list, are some of the best I have found to give a different and clear approach on the subject of our brain and sexuality being wired together and how the influences of society, culture, people and experiences can effect and continue to change that very important part of our life.

I'm a great believer that the more clarity you can bring to a person on a subject, the more power and freedom you give them over their life!  As I find more books on this subject that I think we would all benefit from I'll add them to this page.

Please check it out and let me know your thoughts!  ;)

~ Vista

Saturday, March 9, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that some Saturdays I have way too much time on my hands, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

I love the look on her face. Trying to be so causual and cool. Sweet swaying of the ass! 

What is sexy about this man is his obvious comfort in his own skin.  Great eyes and smile.

Ha! You really think by doing that I won't take you!  Silly man!

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Vegas, Ownership and Naughty Things!

Finally NB has worked through the tremendous load he was carrying and most of the hard parts are behind him.  Things have calmed down enough that he can see straight again and he planned a trip to Vegas for us next week!  I'm a happy, happy domme!  And happy that I'm still able to get away quickly. That may be changing in the near future. But, what counts is that after almost 2 months apart we'll have 4 days and 3 nights being naughty together in Vegas!  We both need this badly!  These long stretches are hard on both of us.  And then when I get back RT will be coming back into town.  ;)

I do love how NB is responding to RT coming into the picture. There really is nothing like the deep seeded needs of a cuckold man as his soul and heart run through a cocktail of emotions at the thought and knowledge of another man enjoying the woman he loves. Hard to explain to those who are not wired that way.  It seems like such a contradiction.  But for those men who truly have this wiring it's a crazy high and low all mixed into one.  And for the woman he loves it bonds him even closer to her.

I have this need for 'ownership' of those things I love. Not in everything. My children, that I love tremendously, I have no problem with them living their own life and being independent.  I'm very independent and come from a long line of strong and independent people, mainly women.  But there is something about a cuckold man that you love; his openness, vulnerability and the trust he puts in you concerning this very deep need that lives inside him and thrills him.  Something, at times, that is hard for him to understand and explain.  But when a man, or anyone for that manner, puts their trust in you that much with their darkest secrets and desires I tend to hold them even closer to me.  I become a protector, nurturer and a great mother bear if I think harm is coming his way.  I can torture him all I want, and gladly, but I'll wound you deeply if you even look at him wrong without my permission. "Ownership" .... that man belongs to me.  I'm the keeper of his secrets and desires. That is an intimacy that we both crave. No matter how dark the road is where I take him, his hand will always be held by mine.  He'll never be alone.  This feeds me and him. When he tells me I own him or I tell him he is mine and only mine...we both are comforted and warmed.

Vegas always brings us both pleasure in many ways. This trip I know will be filled with stories of the emails that have been going back and forth with RT.  Pictures that have been shared and all the erotic things we desire to do to each other.  All the while I'm enjoying the craziness washing over NB and his need to drive himself even closer to me. With all the research I've done on this subject, some say it is the drive in a man to take back what belongs to him after another man has invaded his territory. Whatever the driving cause is, I'm sure for those 3 nights there will be very little sleep. And I'm not complaining!

I read this prose below ... Can't remember where.  I paraphrased it and sent it to NB back in February. It says so much of our journey....

How far in the dark will I lead you?
As far as you wish to go.
Will you get lost?
You'll be with me.
Will you find your way back?
That's up to you.
You may want to stay in the darkness...
But you'll be with me.

Monday, March 4, 2013

The Passion of First Encounters.

It had been weeks since they had seen each other. Weeks that seemed to go by slowly but also served a purpose of building the desires that were ignited when they first met.  Weeks that had their words already touching each other's sexual zones making him hard and her wet with need. His mind had already entered her and her body was already surrendering to the thoughts and desires he was expressing in glorious details. Now it was only moments away before he walked through the door and they would be face to face again. But this time it would involve more than a kiss.

She hears his car pull up and stands next to the door, freshly showered and wearing a soft sheer blue robe that falls just beneath her round cheeks. Before he can knock, she opens the door and ushers him quickly inside. He pulls her close to him and at first she is chilled by the coolness of his jacket.  He removes the jacket and pulls her close to him once more.  She can now feel the warmth of his skin radiating through his shirt. His kiss is what she remembers, but this time even softer and full of more want. She nuzzles her body even closer to his as she holds his head and neck pressing her breasts into his chest.  His right hand moves from her back, down her ass, gripping her bare cheeks and she feels his fingers searching and finding the wetness soaking her pussy. She moans and kisses him harder as his hand moves to her front and he slips two fingers into her hunger. 

She is now pulling at his clothes that have become intrusive.  His shirt flies off and she dives for her first glimpse of his cock as he unzips and drops his slacks and boxers to the floor. Her hand is immediately around his shaft as she lowers herself to her knees and takes him swiftly into her mouth. She moans as she feels his growing flesh pass her wet lips and her hands fondle his shaft and balls. He braces himself against the entryway wall taking in the warmth of her pleasure. His fingers digging into her long dark wavy hair. His mind, absorbed by the movement of her tongue over his sensitive head and shaft.  Her lips soft, yet firm as they surround and move along his length.

"Fuck!" Slips out of his mouth as he pulls her further down on his shaft. "Fuck!"  Then pulls her head off of him in a quick move.  "You need to stop! I almost came."  He raises her to her feet, her lips wet with saliva  Her eyes telling him she is lost in her lust for him.  

He picks her up and carries her to the waiting bed she has prepared for them. He lays her gently on her back toward the edge of the bed and gets on his knees this time. He gently touches the heat generating from between her legs and runs one hand smoothly over her pussy. She moans again, reaching for him.  

"No."  He says. "Lie still.  I want to know you...all of you."  She lays her head back on the bed and spreads her legs wider for him as his hands run up and down her sex and his fingers start to explore every fold and the depths of her opening. Her heat builds, she moans and longs to feel the strength of his cock inside her. Her minds starts to flood with images of him sliding and filling her as she feels the texture of his tongue dancing over her clit. Teasing, arousing and exploring, then diving inside her deeply. 

Her hands run across her breasts and pinch at her nipples, her mind further traveling along familiar fantasies that tend to occupy her thoughts, until she feels his fingers plunging deep inside her and his body moving up her own. She opens her eyes and sees his mouth coming to devour her right nipple, taking it eagerly in his mouth and sucking and flicking it with his tongue.  She reaches down and grabs her breast to thrust even more into his mouth, "Harder!  Suck harder." Her voice almost desperate from the building of pressure inside her cunt and clit.  He obeys, his fingers working in rhythm with his sucking until she explodes in orgasm and releases her juices all over his hand and wrist.

"Oh fuck, baby!" He groans as he moves his cock into position and his mouth over hers, entering her with a long, slow plunge that almost takes her breath away.

"Damn! Oh god...damn you feel so good."  She whispers, floating on the wave of her own orgasm and taking in the sensation of his cock inside her warm walls.

"It's a good start." He whispers back into her ear as he build his own momentum, her meeting him with every thrust.  "Yes," she says, taking another long breath, "A good start."

Saturday, March 2, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that some Saturdays I have way too much time on my hands, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

It's been a calm Saturday.  Life seems to have settled into a bit of peace and I felt these beautiful images brought the calmness I feel in my soul.  Serene and delightful.