Sexual Wiring - Fact or Fiction

I'm excited about this page of the blog.  I've been researching for a while on the wiring of our brain and why we have the desires and the sexual tendencies we have during our life.  And why those tendencies seem to evolve with time and maturity.  Or maybe we finally have the courage to say to the world, "Fuck You! This is what I need and want.  I'm not bringing harm to anyone but maybe you and your way of thinking!"

I know it has been a subject that has intrigued me for a long time and it wasn't until I met NB and finally found my own sexual destiny and happiness that I seriously started looking for answers. These books below that I am recommending and can be found on my Amazon "I Recommend" list, are some of the best I have found to give a different and clear approach on the subject of our brain and sexuality being wired together and how the influences of society, culture, people and experiences can effect and continue to change that very important part of our life.

I'm a great believer that the more clarity you can bring to a person on a subject, the more power and freedom you give them over their life!  As I find more books on this subject that I think we would all benefit from I'll add them to this page.

The "EB" reference in the notes section stands for Ebook, showing the location of the note on Kindle.


Doidge, Norman (2007-03-15). The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science (James H. Silberman Books) . Penguin Group. Kindle Edition.

"A masterfully guided tour through the burgeoning field of neuroplasticity research ... the end result is a solid survey of one of neuro-science's hottest areas ... Along with eminently clear accounts of the relevant concepts and experiments, (Doidge) gives well-turned descriptions of personalities and in-the-moment reactions.  This wider sampling and more intimate depiction makes for an appealing read."  ~ Discover

Notes from:  The Brain That Changes Itself.
  • “Hardwiring” was another machine metaphor coming from the idea of the brain as computer hardware, with permanently connected circuits, each designed to perform a specific, unchangeable function. Preface, EB - 179
  • A band of brilliant scientists, at the frontiers of brain science, who had, in the late 1960s or early 1970s, made a series of unexpected discoveries. They showed that the brain changed its very structure with each different activity it performed, perfecting its circuits so it was better suited to the task at hand.  ( Practice makes perfect! ) If certain “parts” failed, then other parts could sometimes take over.......They began to call this fundamental brain property “neuroplasticity.” Preface, EB - 183
  • While the human brain has apparently underestimated itself, neuroplasticity isn’t all good news; it renders our brains not only more resourceful but also more vulnerable to outside influences. Preface, EB - 208
  • Once a particular plastic change occurs in the brain and becomes well established, it can prevent other changes from occurring. Preface, EB - 211
  • “We see with our brains, not with our eyes,” he says. (Paul Bach-y-Rita) Chapter 1, EB - 442
  • The human libido is not a hardwired, invariable biological urge but can be curiously fickle, easily altered by our psychology and the history of our sexual encounters. Chapter 4, EB - 1655
  • Some people seem to be attracted not so much to people as to complex sexual scripts, where partners play roles, involving various perversions, combining sadism, masochism, voyeurism, and exhibitionism. Chapter 4, EB - 1668
  • Early childhood, not puberty, was the first critical period for sexuality and intimacy, and that children are capable of passionate, protosexual feelings-crushes, love feelings and in some cases even sexual excitement. ... Sexual abuse of children is harmful because it influences the critical period of sexuality in childhood, shaping our later attractions and thoughts about sex.   Chapter 4, EB - 1709 


VAGINA: A NEW BIOGRAPHY - Naomi Wolf @ 2012 HarperCollins Publisher, Inc

"An astonishing work of cutting-edge science and cultural history that radically reframes how we understand the vagina-and consequently, how we understand women-from one of our most respected cultural critics and thinkers, Naomi Wolf." ~ HarperCollins Publisher, Inc

Notes from: Vagina: A New Biography.
  • The more I learned, the more I understood the ways in which the vagina is part of the female brain, and thus part of female creativity, confidence and even character. Introduction, EB - 85
  • To understand the vagina properly is to realize that it is not only coextensive with the female brain, but it is also, essentially, part of the female soul.  Introduction, EB -113
  • For so many of the great women artists, writers and revolutionaries, it seems, a sexual awakening coincided with risk-taking on other levels-social and artistic-and with other kinds of awakening: of mastery, expression and creative powers. Chapter 3, EB - 789
  • In strikingly poetic language for a scientific journal, Dr. Jim Pfaus from Concordia University in Canada, writes that his experiment proved that a critical period exists during an individual's early sexual experience that creates a 'love map' or gestalt of features, movements, feelings and interpersonal interactions associated with sexual reward. Chapter 4, EB - 1143
  • The most destructive thing that men are being taught about women is that the vagina is just a sexual organ, and that sex for women is a sexual act in the same way it is for men.  But neither gender is being taught about the delicate mind-heart-body connection that, it turns out, is female sexual response.  Chapter 5, EB - 1415


  1. I resonate to the finding:
    Some people seem to be attracted not so much to people as to complex sexual scripts...
    I mistakenly fell into that style initially but now I try to not get into that rut, even when others expect me to perform that way!

    1. Thank you for your comment. It's always best when we are not afraid to be honest with ourself and understand what is the motivation behind the things we do or people and circumstances we find ourselves involved in. It's when we blindly live our lives, letting life just happen to us that damage can be done.

      Thank you for following!

      ~ Vista


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