Sunday, December 29, 2013

A Warrior's Heart

"One life is all we have and we live it as we believe in living it. But to sacrifice what you are and to live without belief, that is a fate more terrible than dying."  ~ Joan of Arc

Since childhood I've admired Joan of Arc. I have always admired her strength, resolve and absolute confidence in who she was and what she was place here on earth to do.  And to have such insight, wisdom and confidence at such a young age... her life spoke volumes to me. I related to her more as I matured as a woman and resolved in my own heart to know the authentic 'me' and not who people and society kept telling me I should be.  This resolve has carried me through my life and has served me well.

As I step into 2014, single and uncertain of the road ahead of me, I have taken the time to listen to that voice deep inside and remind myself of the warrior who lives there. This lifestyle I've chosen fits the warrior inside me well.  It's about freedom to be and explore who you are and join those who are like minded.

I've felt the heart beat of a warrior since a child.  Maybe that is part of my dominant nature, don't know for sure. But it is a part of me. It shows itself in many ways, but mainly can be seen where integrity, clarity and honesty live.

My hope for all of you who follow this blog is that 2014 brings even more clarity and wonder in the exploration of who you are and that more people will be drawn to the beauty that lives inside you.

I'm excited about the coming year. Have courage for the things and people still yet to appear in your life.

~ Vista

Saturday, December 28, 2013

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Merry Christmas for Those Who Celebrate...

I must admit that most of the time I can be 'bah humbug' about the holidays.  It's really not about the meaning, but about the hustle and bustle it involves.  Let alone all the emotional charged happenings it evokes.  It has been an interesting Christmas day around here so far and hopefully will end well with those I love around me.

I'm keeping in mind the upbeat reasons to concentrate on this time of year, like those who have great meaning in my life, putting aside any differences we may have and just rejoice that they are there.  So whether it is Christmas or any other holiday you are celebrating this season ... enjoy those you love and I hope they are around you!

~ Vista

Sunday, December 22, 2013

I Remember the 'Little' Side of Him.

These images came across my Tumblr page yesterday from Submissive Guy Comics. (Use link below pic to access his site.) 

I immediately thought of NB and his 'little' side. It was magical and beautiful for us both. NB is 6' 3" and I'm 5' 4" !  A big difference when we stood next to each other, but I loved the feeling of being physically overpowered by him knowing who had the dominant power in the relationship.  He would often hold me and comment on how small I was in his arms. I believe he loved the paradox himself.

The 'little' side of him had nothing to do with being child like. But everything to do with feeling absolutely safe in my presence, releasing whatever burdens he was carrying and finding strength in my embrace. It had to do with opening up the most vulnerable places in his soul, exposing his weaknesses and failures and in return receiving my unconditional acceptance and love.  

My heart toward him during those special intimate times was protective, nurturing and I could feel the love pour out of my spirit and soul washing over any insecurities he was battling.  Ultimately, when his strength had return, his hands would start to roam, along with mine, and we would end up with me reminding him who he belong to. ;)  All of that beautiful strength and surrender owned by me. 

These are memories and reflections I take with me into the new year.

~ Vista

Saturday, December 21, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

Life continues to be interesting around here. Had some good conversations with NB this week. No, we aren't back together, but neither of us has lost the deep love for one another and Christmas without him ... is just not Christmas.

I hope all of you have someone lovely to snuggle to during these holidays. They are the real gift in your life. My son asked me if there was anything special I wanted for Christmas. I told him all I wanted was his undying love for me, his mom.  And that I'll always have.  That is something money can't buy.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and may 2014 bring us all joy.

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

e[lust] edition #53 ~ Enjoy!

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Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #54? Start with the newly updated rules, come back January 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Do Not Consent
Found poem – UR so SXY
Kink is not a dirty word!

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Being not doing; a thought about labels.
Take It For Daddy

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

The negative impact of media exposure on sex


Christmas Eve

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

SexyLittleIdeas - Childfree Environmentalist
Bisexuality (It's complicated)
The Goodbye Kiss
Our Contraception Journey Part 8: Mirena IUS
Silencing Their Demons
My Sex Education
Can't tell the diff between vanity & artistry

Erotic Fiction

“Pick a hole.You know what happens next.”
A feast for the senses
This Is Me. This Is Her. This Is How We Fuck.
Trust Me
Every Last Drop
Superotica Advent Calendar
Blissemas Erotica: Of the Santa persuasion…
Larry Does Things, Differently

Erotic Non-Fiction

A Letter To Little Marie
Floating and Tingly
Another Kind of Gratitude
Thick Cocks and the Art of the Silent Blowjob
"Your cum is in my hair."
Finding Out
Melding Pleasure and Pain
Personal: DSL Experiment Week #2
The Blowjob

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Hello Ma'am
Placed Around My Neck
Being a Babygirl
The Wanderings of a Sadistic Mind
The Big Mistake Even Good Submissive Men Make
Dermarollers: Kinky, Sadistic, and Fun!
Crawling & Kneeling

Sunday, December 15, 2013

Training Them Up in the Way They Should Go

In Training

Now that I'm single and getting settled into that fact I look ahead at the daunting task of finding a suitable submissive that will thrill me, meet my needs and stimulate my imagination. The journey of finding, training and eventually owning is long and filled with the investment of time, emotions and hope.

They mostly come, those not afraid to approach, with visions of porn influenced submission that have fueled their times of masturbation with the impersonal viewing of two dimensional dominant women that meet their every desire unquestioned. When meeting a dominant woman face to face who speaks, challenges and questions their motives, most would rather retreat back into their fancy-filled dreams than face what lies within them. Those brave enough and hungry enough to move past their fears are the ones I look for.

These are the men who are tired of living half a life. Tired of hiding in dark shadows what beckons them in the mid morning hours. Men willing to put aside their preconceived ideas of submission and dominance and will strip away the role and title to reveal what makes their heart beat wild. It either lies within you or it doesn't.

The authentic I can work with, train and eventually own for both of our pleasure. Because it's not about following some rules or pattern set by someone in a best selling book. But about the reality of a connection between two people who naturally bring those desires to the surface and remove whatever boundaries society has put on them. Growing the hunger and reveling in it's ever increasing glow and power.

It's the foundation that is laid and built upon between two people with respect and adoration for one another. Knowing deep down each is needed by the other to exist. Who am I without the beauty of your submission?

I am searching and will find once again that magic. I'll know again that trust that runs deeper than any river and the vulnerability and openness of a surrendered heart. Until we are both owned by each other.


Saturday, December 14, 2013

The Art of Man ~ Saturday Eye Candy!

By now all of you are acutely aware that I absolutely love the form of a man. Especially if it has been toned and well cared for. For centuries women have been the object of desires and objectified. What I find wonderful in my life are the men who truly want to feel that kind of objectification.  It's a thrill for me to restrain them, display their nakedness spread eagle before me and have them wait to see what I'll do with them. The desire, hunger and vulnerability that washes over them is not to be taken lightly. For them to feel admired, their cock and balls adored, body appreciated and see their confidence swell is something most men are not exposed to, let alone hear from a woman.

This may not be the case for some. But for the many men I've met, talked to and had as lovers, this is a common theme. Of course, I'm mainly talking about men with a submissive streak. Male doms have their own way of commanding attention.  :)

So for all you lovely, beautiful sub and switch men out there who feel taken for granted or under appreciated, stop by from time to time here at my blog and know this dom admires all that you are.

And for all the women who feel the same as I do...enjoy the Eye Candy!


Saturday, December 7, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site!

I know... It's just an ASS kind of day!  ;)  The sun is shining and it's bitter cold to the bone cold outside! I'd rather spend the day playing with one of these beauties. Mmmmmmmm

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Silencing Their Demons....

The picture...the quote...all of it grabs at me! This to me is the D/s relationship I thrive on! There were many aspects to NB and my relationship, but the greatest joy was in staring down his demons. He walked most of his life living in a secret. Outwardly showing the world the bigger than life alpha male and being very successful at it, while in solitary moments being tormented by the demons that would shout out his lies and folly. The few times he tried to explain to a love one his struggles and deep desires he was ridiculed, mocked and sent to a therapist to get 'fixed'.  Then our paths crossed.

He immediately felt relaxed and like a thirsty dying man finding an oasis, he settled in my presence and slowly poured out his grief. As each tormenting spirit would raise it's head thinking to meet with the past ridicule, he found understanding, compassion, acceptance and love. Silencing the voices he had grown to know so well. Those demons feared me and he found peace in my presence. Alas, in the end, we alone choose what voices we give power to and today I'm not sure what he hears. But I do miss being his source of peace.

As I journey on my own path, I take with me many lessons forged in that relationship and will carry those priceless gems into the next. I'll always remember the beauty of his heartfelt submission. The look of ultimate surrender with just a touch of my hand, a look in my eyes or the sound of my name upon his lips. And for that beautiful moment, the silencing of his demons.