I've waited for you to make a move long enough!
This will probably come across as venting....but I do hope some men listen and think about their thoughts and actions. So here it goes... I wish more men would act out or at least search out those to act out the fantasies that keep them awake at night and sometimes over take their thoughts during the day. Legal, sane, with consent fantasies. Maybe it's a communication problem. They just have a hard time getting across what they want. Or they are so immersed in their fantasy that they forget it will take flesh and blood people to bring it to pass. Whatever the case is, I saw this pic above and loved how his fantasy came alive, taking him by surprise! Now what will he do? I find some men are content to only dream of what it would be like. I say life is too damn short to only dream and not plan on taking some kind of action.
What has always kept me being a risk taker is not wanting to miss an opportunity for an adventure that intrigues me and also not waking up in my 80's plus and regretting that I wasted so much of my life playing it safe.
Have I suffered heartache? Damn right I have! Probably my share and yours combined! Have I made mistakes and regretted some decisions. Yes! Of course! Did I walk away with lessons learned, and an understanding of relationships and human nature? Yes! And wisdom I share with all who will listen. Is this only a 'man' thing. No, but I only deal with men in my life in an intimate way so they are my focus.
I don't want to hear why you can't move forward. Why you must stay stuck in your dream world. The bible says that if you have already thought it in your heart you have already done the deed. It's there, the desire is alive and your body becomes hungry for it. If you're never going to act on it, then stop thinking about it and walk away! Just walk away. Don't cry in your soup why it's so unfair etc. You standing still only tells me that you are not really hungry! Not enough to do something about that hunger! Grab your life, grab your thoughts, be responsible for them and do something about it! Either change your circumstances, or look for opportunities to explore your fantasies or leave them in the dust behind you never to unroll and expose them again. (Good luck with that last one.)
NB may drive me crazy at times with all his ways but the one major thing that keeps me bonded to him is his hunger. It intoxicates me and his hunger seems to grow the longer we are together. It's real, raw and completes him. Be honest with yourself...always! No one can live your life but YOU. No one.