Friday, July 17, 2015

We Have Moved!!! ::smile::

We have now moved to our new URL:  sexualdestinies.com

Please make the necessary changes to your blog roll if I'm listed with you on your site and to my followers, bookmark the new URL. This page will be redirected to the new URL quickly but in case you see this before... Join me!  ;)

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

e[lust] edition #72 ~ Enjoy!

An Erotic Adventure Image 
Photo courtesy of Tabitha Rayne


Welcome to Elust #72 -

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #73? Start with the rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Broken
Invisible Pride: Bi Erasure
Disabled Gentleman

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Erotic Fiction: "Passerby"
Overcoming resistance

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

  #AskELJames: The Poignant & Profitable Martyrdom of E.L. James

  All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!  

Sex News,Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Tits, Ass, Monogamy, and Muscles 
Numbers 
ATVOD's Preliminary View

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Perfect Stranger 
Remembering my first sex toy 
On Relationship Anarchy
In Defense of Big Toys 
Unpacking Assumptions About Sex and Stoneness
A Thousand Miles 
Six Important Reasons Not to Fake an Orgasm
Flying With Sex Toys
What is your preferred way to orgasm? 
First

Erotic Fiction

kotw: anonymous sex 
Breathe
Intrusion
A Firm Hand and Lessons
The Sounds Of The Night
Office Assistant

Events

Happy Bloomsday! What Would Molly Do? 
Bare Reality: 100 women and their breasts

Poetry

Deacon Jones: A Lusty Limerick

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Trust Me: On Edge Play in Erotica 
Come on Command

Erotic Non-Fiction

Chasing Orgasms 
Did You Just Laugh At My Instructions? 
I’m always going to get mine. 
Humiliation of an ex-Nazi submissive 52
that was intense

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Saturday, July 11, 2015

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my Tumblr site Sexual Destinies!

Blog update: It's been a busy week working on the new blog site and finally settled on a theme I enjoy. I'm hoping to make the transition final by the end of next week. My biggest concern is losing some of my faithful followers who have been with me.

Please when I make the switch add: sexualdestinies.com to your bookmarks. If you want a peak at the new blog go ahead...  but keep in mind it's still a work in progress. I'll continue to post here until the move is ready. ;)

Now for some weekly Eye Candy! Some lovely treats and gifts from friends. ;)

Beautiful

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my Tumblr site Sexual Destinies!

First time in over 3 years I missed posting Saturday Eye Candy! It's been a crazy week and I had unexpected company over last night.  ;)

New blog site:  We are still working out the bugs on the new site. I have just a touch of OCD so it may be a while until I have it the way I desire! WordPress is a challenge for me. I was very spoiled by Blogger. But it will be fantastic once it's done and new things will be added along the way. I'm excited! So please continue to follow here. I will be posting as always and when I'm ready...you'll know!

The Beauty found in Backs!  Mmmmmmmm






Tuesday, June 30, 2015

The Problem with Denial is Denial.

Noun -Denial:

  • The failure to acknowledge an unacceptable truth or emotion or to admit it into consciousness, used as a defense mechanism. 

I'm not sure when I became a master at this defense mechanism or why. It must have been very early in my life. When my mother suddenly died when I was 10 I had already learned how to subconsciously clothed myself in denial. That day I was sent to a neighbor's house while the ambulance carried my mother away. I played that day as if nothing had happened and didn't grieve over her loss until I was 26. I have since lost others who have been close to me and called myself a survivor after each one. Looking back over my life denial also kept me from confronting problems until they were so insurmountable they couldn't be ignored. Swift judgement would then be cast and carried out. Always surviving, so I thought.

I didn't realize my insensitivity to subtleties of a problem or my disconnect in a relationship when they were evident was the work of denial in my life. A white washing in order to not face another disappointment. Thinking that I was being generous to let people work through their issues on their own. Later I would kick myself for not being more 'present' and aware. For not being fearless to take the chance to talk through things and hopefully salvage what good was still there. I was fearless in many other areas of my life. Why not when it came to issues of my heart?

You'd think with maturity, experience and wisdom an understanding of the importance of paying attention to subtle warning signs would be acknowledged. But the problem with denial is itself DENIAL.

There's a hope when you enter a relationship. A hope that the words spoken to each other will hold up over time. That lust, passion, desire, respect and eventually love will keep hearts honest and communication open. But that is how I look at things when a foundation is being formed. Denial comes into play when the other person doesn't see things or operate according to my way of thinking. Denial sweeps away the feeling that emotions are shifting, desire is changing and denial says they are just having an off day. Give them some space. Because if things weren't working they'd tell me right? Because they want this to work also right? Because that's what I would do. Right?

Denial! A light has been cast into your dark abode! I do not have the full comprehension of how deep your tentacles have rooted in my soul.  But hear me now. I am fearless and my face has been turned towards you.

Our Lives are Written on Our Soul.
~Vista~

Saturday, June 27, 2015

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

We are Moving!

Yep! Finally took the leap and Sexual Destinies is moving to its own site! Time to grow up and join the big leagues! We are still in the process of building the other blog on Word Press. Gawd... I am going to miss working in Blogger ... it was sooo easy! Now I have to learn all over again! So this may be in the works for a few weeks as I learn my way around their dashboard. If any one has any suggestions and knowledge on Word Press pass it along please!

I did find a lovely submissive here locally who has helped me to move to another server and he even transferred my data! What a gem! I owe him... a lot. His wish list will be enjoyable to fulfill! xxxooo

The new URL:  http://www.sexualdestinies.com/

It's a bit of a mess right now.. so I'll continue to blog here until the transfer is done. Thank you to all of my followers! I sincerely hope I don't lose any of you in the move!

I'll keep everyone posted of the progress!

Hugs,

~ Vista

Vista

Sunday, June 21, 2015

To All the Daddies...Happy Father's Day!

Fathers: Always remember that many eyes are following you as you move throughout your day.

Your sons are learning how you handle adversity.
Your daughters are learning how you touch the one you love.
Your sons are learning how you use your voice when instructing.
Your daughters are learning how you use your voice within your emotions.
Your sons are learning that you follow through on your commitments.
Your daughters are learning about trust and honor.
Your sons are learning about humility and strength.
Your daughters are learning they can conquer anything when self worth is validated.
Your sons are learning how to walk with the one they love.
Your daughters are learning from you the rhythm of that walk.

Happy Father's Day.

xxoo ~ Vista

~Vista~

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

e[lust] edition #71 ~ Enjoy!

The Shingle Beach 
Photo courtesy of The Shingle Beach

Welcome to Elust #71 -

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #72? Start with the rules, come back July 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Backyard Glory
Bra Wars
Versions of Ourselves

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Disabled characters: who do I write them for?
How Can You Think About Sex Right Now?

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

  Three

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!  


Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

How We Started Swinging: Part 2 
Notes to my younger self 
I am what I am 
O-O-O-OMG 
Sometimes Submission Requires Standing Up 
Tribe 
I know how to fix a texting mistake. 
Change Is A Four Letter Word 
Zero to Sex Pot in 150 minutes 
condoms

Erotic Non-Fiction

23 Minutes Of Play 
Services Rendered
Depravity’s Communication
Sinful Sunday: The Reveal

Erotic Fiction

No Panties 
A Woman's Experience of Lust 
Wicked Wednesday: Three 
An Uncommon Case 
Misused Petals
(portrait of) desire 
Her Turn A Day 
At The Beach

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Am I Jaded? 
Fury Road's Furiosa and femdom 
Sub power, Domly Vulnerability 
In Person I Found You Very Innocent..... 
Still A Cherry Tree

Poetry

Catching Up: A Happy Horny Haiku 
What You See

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Hey, Feminism? Your ugly is showing. 
The Bigger Picture
Naive College Virgin Reads Penthouse Letters 
Squirting is Not a Science 
Missing “Story of O” scene discovered!
 
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