Thursday, May 30, 2013

Testosterone! Don't Leave Home Without it!


Staying Healthy, Hard and Ready!


Male menopause is not something you hear a lot about, but it should be shouted from the rooftops so that men would accept this normal change in their lives and get help to start feeling alive again. Not every man has symptoms. Some men if they are extremely healthy and active can still produce testosterone at a high level. But that is the exception. Some of the medical help available in this country is wrapped around culture and social norms instead of facts. FACT: Men go through a drop in hormones just as women do, although the symptoms are not 'in your face' and 'bigger than life' than what women experience. It slowly creeps up on a man until he resigns himself that it's just part of the aging process. Well...so is disease and you would get help for that wouldn't you? I have taken bio-identical hormones for over two years and would never want to go back to the dark days of being hormone deficient! This is a subject that NB and I have discussed at great length. And it's amazing the Doctors that have discouraged him from looking into it. But we have found some clinics close to where he has moved that specialize in hormone therapy for men and I'm excited for him to check them out. I am a true believer in replacing in our bodies naturally what they have used to keep us healthy and strong. Would you stop feeding your favorite plant fertilizer because it was time for it to grow old? So you decide to deprive it of what made it healthy?

Men, look over these symptoms and honestly ask yourself if you have any of them. Chances are if you are over 50+ you'll say yes.

Symptoms of Testosterone Deficiency (Androgen Deficiency)

  • Loss of energy
  • Brain Fog
  • Decrease mental quickness
  • Diminished libido
  • Decrease orgasmic intensity
  • Loss of strength
  • Loss of muscle flexibility
  • Prolonged recovery from exercise
  • Loss of cardiac protection
  • High cholesterol
  • High LDL Cholesterol
  • Weight gain
  • Fat increase especially mid abdominal
  • Loss of endurance
  • Depression
  • Fear
  • Anxiety
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Difficulty converting fat to lean muscle mass with increased exercise
  • Osteoporosis

Testosterone levels begin to decline at 30 years of age, and the typical male's testosterone declines by approximately 10% per decade. We are living longer and need our lives to be productive and full of great sexual energy! There is no reason why men or women should give in to the mind set of what they think a certain chronological age should look and feel like. Women need testosterone also. Replacing hormones for both men and women will hopefully become a common occurrence as time passes.

I encourage all to Google (bio identical hormones ) and do your own research.  

Men!!! We need you hard, focused, alert and hungry for many more years! ;)

Saturday, May 25, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!


To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

Oh... Did I wake you?  


Mature men always deserve a spot here... :)


That look..... Mmmmmmm

Monday, May 20, 2013

Psychological Power Play




NB will be arriving in a few days to spend a week with me.  It will be two months since we've seen each other by the time he arrives.  Longer than I like to be apart. We have talked of doing many things while he is here, the most important, re-connecting.  That first night will have us getting very little sleep as we tend to wake up and explore each other during the night.  NB's favorite thing to do besides having his cock inside me while he sleeps is having his fingers resting in my ass.  ;) Something he has always done from the beginning.  And something I've always enjoyed and allowed him to do.  It's a form of ownership I give him as a trade-off on the many things I require of him.

But the point of this post is to talk about the psychological erotic aspect of our relationship which is a driving force for us both.  It really is the ingredient that holds much of our D/s relationship together. Also being a cuckold couple this plays highly into our dynamic. Having knowledge of NB's most secret desires, wants and needs and knowing how to trigger and release those in even a greater way than he ever thought was possible is something that I need and find highly intoxicating.  I do believe I understand that aspect of our relationship far better than NB. And we are both comfortable with that.  He doesn't have the need to understand the 'why' as much as I do. He just revels in it.  I'm the planner, the networker and negotiator of anyone who may come into our life.  I'm also his protector and anchor.

The cartoon above says many things and can be taken in a few ways.  At first when I saw it I immediately associated it's meaning as a psychological trigger for the man on the couch and that for me, it would be great joy to actually be naked and act as if I was clothed to see if he really could distinguish between reality and fantasy.  Then I also saw that she could be clothed and realizes by his reaction that his fantasies have over taken his reality, again. Which ever truth it is...her understanding of his triggers and the images he fights gives her great control over his psyche.  :)  Something he willing relinquishes to her. A win-win power play.

And speaking of power play, I'll end with this last image.  The joy I receive in seeing NB fully surrendered to me ...Yes, it's been far to long in between visits!



Saturday, May 18, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!


To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

The last couple of days have been full of wonderful eye candy.  It was hard deciding which to choose without adding at least 10!  So I narrowed it down to these 4, but you can always go to my Tumblr to see the rest!  Yum!

 This one reminds me of a lover I had.  His ass was so yummy!!!


Just a hint of mystery.....


Cocking his gun.... ;) More of him on my Tumblr....


He makes me thirsty....

Thursday, May 16, 2013

e[lust] edition #46~ Enjoy!

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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

How to Shave Your Asshole
Tied and Blindfolded
Why Disney is like BDSM

~ Featured Posts (Molly’s Picks) ~
Because you are so beautiful
Suspension of Disbelief

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~
Dildology: The Science of Sex Toys

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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

The Vagina Thief
The Role of Feelings in Swinging Lifestyle
Why I Feel No Jealousy
Spontaneous
I Asked SilverHubby to Respond to a Comment
Mastering Masturbation in 7 Steps
The One Where I Face Reality

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

The Cycle of Change, Simplified
My IMsL 2013 Keynote

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Kink of the Week #5: Roleplay
How To find (and catch) a Male Submissive
How to be a Good female Sub
The Master's Voice
Kink of the Week #5: Roleplay
"S&M: The Dark Side of Gay Liberation", 1975
PolyAnna's Musings: Choosing Revisited
KOTW-Roleplay: W's Perspective
Brat-tastic!
Liberating the Fisherman's Wife
How much realism should be in BDSM erotica?

Erotic Fiction

Sunday Morning
Warehouse 69 Episode 2: The Marquis' Crop
Sunday Morning
Salivate
Suffer
Bend Over, Bad Kitty!
Dirty Sexy Money
Lolita Twenty-Thirteen, Part Four

Erotic Non Fiction

My First MMF Threesome
That Smile
What Wet Dreams are Made Of.....
A Good Match
I was a Naughty Girl
Jets
Right Here. Now.
I fantasize about blowjobs & being a good girl

Poetry

Things to Wear – NaPoWriMo
Blood Lust
A poem for Rose
Vanishing
Colorless
Subby Space

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Look at Me!
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Saturday, May 11, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

Still Saturday here on the West Coast!  Happy Mother's Day to those who find this on Sunday!  ;) Yummy bad boys!  At your service!







Thursday, May 9, 2013

Fantasies! How Hungry are You Really?

I've waited for you to make a move long enough!


This will probably come across as venting....but I do hope some men listen and think about their thoughts and actions.  So here it goes... I wish more men would act out or at least search out those to act out the fantasies that keep them awake at night and sometimes over take their thoughts during the day.  Legal, sane, with consent fantasies.  Maybe it's a communication problem.  They just have a hard time getting across what they want.  Or they are so immersed in their fantasy that they forget it will take flesh and blood people to bring it to pass. Whatever the case is, I saw this pic above and loved how his fantasy came alive, taking him by surprise!  Now what will he do?  I find some men are content to only dream of what it would be like. I say life is too damn short to only dream and not plan on taking some kind of action.  

What has always kept me being a risk taker is not wanting to miss an opportunity for an adventure that intrigues me and also not waking up in my 80's plus and regretting that I wasted so much of my life playing it safe.

Have I suffered heartache?  Damn right I have!  Probably my share and yours combined!  Have I made mistakes and regretted some decisions.  Yes!  Of course!  Did I walk away with lessons learned, and an understanding of relationships and human nature?  Yes!  And wisdom I share with all who will listen.  Is this only a 'man' thing. No, but I only deal with men in my life in an intimate way so they are my focus. 

I don't want to hear why you can't move forward.  Why you must stay stuck in your dream world. The bible says that if you have already thought it in your heart you have already done the deed. It's there, the desire is alive and your body becomes hungry for it.  If you're never going to act on it, then stop thinking about it and walk away!  Just walk away.  Don't cry in your soup why it's so unfair etc.  You standing still only tells me that you are not really hungry!  Not enough to do something about that hunger!  Grab your life, grab your thoughts, be responsible for them and do something about it!  Either change your circumstances, or look for opportunities to explore your fantasies or leave them in the dust behind you never to unroll and expose them again.  (Good luck with that last one.)

NB may drive me crazy at times with all his ways but the one major thing that keeps me bonded to him is his hunger.  It intoxicates me and his hunger seems to grow the longer we are together.  It's real, raw and completes him.  Be honest with yourself...always!  No one can live your life but YOU. No one.  

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Underlying Hunger.....

We had been talking for weeks, nothing too steamy in the exchanged emails.  But yet there was something in his words that spoke of hunger. Deep, submissive hunger. He was curious about his submissive side but had not found the right domme to trust with those hidden desires. Yes, his hunger was underlying his words and I had to meet him. 

The time came to meet for coffee and I felt the chemistry burning through me the moment he hug me 'hello'. It was that intangible feeling that runs through you when you know you have meet a match on some level.  We talked for an hour then went back to his place for more privacy and cool drinks on his patio ... it was a hot day.

We were standing in his kitchen drinking our cold drinks making small talk. (I hate small talk by the way.)  I could tell he was a bit nervous so I put my drink down and told him to hold me. That was all that was needed. His mouth started to relax around my lips after the first kiss and I could feel his cock starting to bulge through his pants as I pressed his lower body to mine. My hands started to explore what he had to offer me and before long his clothes were off and in a pile on the floor. Mine were still in place. 

He's a triathlete, so his body is lean and toned. Not really my type. I like my men to have some meat on their bones, but my god...what an amazing cock stood before me attached to that lean frame!  8 1/2" and thick!  I walked around him, examined his ass cheeks that were tight and stood behind him pressing my body against his while I reached around and started to stroke his cock. We eventually made our way back to his bedroom.....he and his hunger following behind me, his cock tightly held in my hand as I led the way.


Saturday, May 4, 2013

Saturday Eye Candy!


To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

Don't be distraught pet ... You'll learn.


What some will do to please! ;)


Can you tell me what I like best in this pic?  A clue in the link....

Thursday, May 2, 2013

What Wet Dreams are Made Of.....


Follow me into my dreams....


Passion.  Lots of hot, animalistic, sweaty, can't get enough lusty passion.  Where the words are few because your mind is foggy from all the rushing of chemicals flooding your brain from coming over and over again.  Hands, mouths circling and roaming over your hungry body trying to satisfy the hunger that dwells within. 

Hot flesh pressed against hot flesh, your senses reaching for each touch, kiss, lick.  Your body lurching toward the hard cock or cocks that continually tease you until you grab one, any one and impale yourself on it.  It's not about being nice and decent in this moment but about getting what you want, need and must have.

It's about the knowing of each other, each ones triggers and making sure all leave drained of their desires.  It's also knowing that he is watching from the corner of the room, tied and unable to join in. Knowing the images that are being carved into his brain to later play over and over again. Images he doesn't want to ever leave. Images that will haunt and warm him while he's not sharing your bed.

These are the things that fill your dreams and wake you in the middle of the night, raw with hunger and wet with desire. These are the nights when you wish he was in your bed and you could roll over, wake him and slowly place your hungry wet pussy on his face while you tell him of your dream and all the things you want to do and have him see.  Then feel his cock slide inside your hunger and quench your need.