A Warrior's Heart

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"One life is all we have and we live it as we believe in living it. But to sacrifice what you are and to live without belief, that is a fate more terrible than dying."  ~ Joan of Arc

Since childhood I've admired Joan of Arc. I have always admired her strength, resolve and absolute confidence in who she was and what she was place here on earth to do.  And to have such insight, wisdom and confidence at such a young age... her life spoke volumes to me. I related to her more as I matured as a woman and resolved in my own heart to know the authentic 'me' and not who people and society kept telling me I should be.  This resolve has carried me through my life and has served me well.

As I step into 2014, single and uncertain of the road ahead of me, I have taken the time to listen to that voice deep inside and remind myself of the warrior who lives there. This lifestyle I've chosen fits the warrior inside me well.  It's about freedom to be and explore who you are and join those who are like minded.

I've felt the heart beat of a warrior since a child.  Maybe that is part of my dominant nature, don't know for sure. But it is a part of me. It shows itself in many ways, but mainly can be seen where integrity, clarity and honesty live.

My hope for all of you who follow this blog is that 2014 brings even more clarity and wonder in the exploration of who you are and that more people will be drawn to the beauty that lives inside you.

I'm excited about the coming year. Have courage for the things and people still yet to appear in your life.

~ Vista

Saturday Eye Candy!

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To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

More abs and asses.  A girl has to do what she has to do to keep smiling on cold winter days.  ;)

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Merry Christmas for Those Who Celebrate...

I must admit that most of the time I can be 'bah humbug' about the holidays.  It's really not about the meaning, but about the hustle and bustle it involves.  Let alone all the emotional charged happenings it evokes.  It has been an interesting Christmas day around here so far and hopefully will end well with those I love around me.

I'm keeping in mind the upbeat reasons to concentrate on this time of year, like those who have great meaning in my life, putting aside any differences we may have and just rejoice that they are there.  So whether it is Christmas or any other holiday you are celebrating this season ... enjoy those you love and I hope they are around you!

~ Vista

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I Remember the 'Little' Side of Him.

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These images came across my Tumblr page yesterday from Submissive Guy Comics. (Use link below pic to access his site.) 

I immediately thought of NB and his 'little' side. It was magical and beautiful for us both. NB is 6' 3" and I'm 5' 4" !  A big difference when we stood next to each other, but I loved the feeling of being physically overpowered by him knowing who had the dominant power in the relationship.  He would often hold me and comment on how small I was in his arms. I believe he loved the paradox himself.

The 'little' side of him had nothing to do with being child like. But everything to do with feeling absolutely safe in my presence, releasing whatever burdens he was carrying and finding strength in my embrace. It had to do with opening up the most vulnerable places in his soul, exposing his weaknesses and failures and in return receiving my unconditional acceptance and love.  

My heart toward him during those special intimate times was protective, nurturing and I could feel the love pour out of my spirit and soul washing over any insecurities he was battling.  Ultimately, when his strength had return, his hands would start to roam, along with mine, and we would end up with me reminding him who he belong to. ;)  All of that beautiful strength and surrender owned by me. 

These are memories and reflections I take with me into the new year.

~ Vista

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

Life continues to be interesting around here. Had some good conversations with NB this week. No, we aren't back together, but neither of us has lost the deep love for one another and Christmas without him ... is just not Christmas.

I hope all of you have someone lovely to snuggle to during these holidays. They are the real gift in your life. My son asked me if there was anything special I wanted for Christmas. I told him all I wanted was his undying love for me, his mom.  And that I'll always have.  That is something money can't buy.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and may 2014 bring us all joy.

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e[lust] edition #53 ~ Enjoy!

 

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Do Not Consent
Found poem – UR so SXY
Kink is not a dirty word!

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Being not doing; a thought about labels.
Take It For Daddy

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The Secret Censorship Stopping You Seeing Gay Websites

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Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

The negative impact of media exposure on sex

Poetry

Christmas Eve

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

SexyLittleIdeas - Childfree Environmentalist
Thwack
Bisexuality (It's complicated)
The Goodbye Kiss
Our Contraception Journey Part 8: Mirena IUS
Silencing Their Demons
My Sex Education
Optimism
Can't tell the diff between vanity & artistry

Erotic Fiction

“Pick a hole.You know what happens next.”
A feast for the senses
This Is Me. This Is Her. This Is How We Fuck.
Trust Me
Every Last Drop
Superotica Advent Calendar
Blissemas Erotica: Of the Santa persuasion…
Larry Does Things, Differently

Erotic Non-Fiction

A Letter To Little Marie
Floating and Tingly
Another Kind of Gratitude
Thick Cocks and the Art of the Silent Blowjob
"Your cum is in my hair."
Finding Out
Jigsaw
Melding Pleasure and Pain
Personal: DSL Experiment Week #2
The Blowjob

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Hello Ma'am
Placed Around My Neck
Being a Babygirl
The Wanderings of a Sadistic Mind
The Big Mistake Even Good Submissive Men Make
CollarMe...WTF?
Dermarollers: Kinky, Sadistic, and Fun!
Crawling & Kneeling

Training Them Up in the Way They Should Go

In Training

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Now that I'm single and getting settled into that fact I look ahead at the daunting task of finding a suitable submissive that will thrill me, meet my needs and stimulate my imagination. The journey of finding, training and eventually owning is long and filled with the investment of time, emotions and hope.

They mostly come, those not afraid to approach, with visions of porn influenced submission that have fueled their times of masturbation with the impersonal viewing of two dimensional dominant women that meet their every desire unquestioned. When meeting a dominant woman face to face who speaks, challenges and questions their motives, most would rather retreat back into their fancy-filled dreams than face what lies within them. Those brave enough and hungry enough to move past their fears are the ones I look for.

These are the men who are tired of living half a life. Tired of hiding in dark shadows what beckons them in the mid morning hours. Men willing to put aside their preconceived ideas of submission and dominance and will strip away the role and title to reveal what makes their heart beat wild. It either lies within you or it doesn't.

The authentic I can work with, train and eventually own for both of our pleasure. Because it's not about following some rules or pattern set by someone in a best selling book. But about the reality of a connection between two people who naturally bring those desires to the surface and remove whatever boundaries society has put on them. Growing the hunger and reveling in it's ever increasing glow and power.

It's the foundation that is laid and built upon between two people with respect and adoration for one another. Knowing deep down each is needed by the other to exist. Who am I without the beauty of your submission?

I am searching and will find once again that magic. I'll know again that trust that runs deeper than any river and the vulnerability and openness of a surrendered heart. Until we are both owned by each other.

Owned

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The Art of Man ~ Saturday Eye Candy!

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By now all of you are acutely aware that I absolutely love the form of a man. Especially if it has been toned and well cared for. For centuries women have been the object of desires and objectified. What I find wonderful in my life are the men who truly want to feel that kind of objectification.  It's a thrill for me to restrain them, display their nakedness spread eagle before me and have them wait to see what I'll do with them. The desire, hunger and vulnerability that washes over them is not to be taken lightly. For them to feel admired, their cock and balls adored, body appreciated and see their confidence swell is something most men are not exposed to, let alone hear from a woman.

This may not be the case for some. But for the many men I've met, talked to and had as lovers, this is a common theme. Of course, I'm mainly talking about men with a submissive streak. Male doms have their own way of commanding attention.  :)

So for all you lovely, beautiful sub and switch men out there who feel taken for granted or under appreciated, stop by from time to time here at my blog and know this dom admires all that you are.

And for all the women who feel the same as I do...enjoy the Eye Candy!

 

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Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

I know... It's just an ASS kind of day!  ;)  The sun is shining and it's bitter cold to the bone cold outside! I'd rather spend the day playing with one of these beauties. Mmmmmmmm

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Silencing Their Demons....

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The picture...the quote...all of it grabs at me! This to me is the D/s relationship I thrive on! There were many aspects to NB and my relationship, but the greatest joy was in staring down his demons. He walked most of his life living in a secret. Outwardly showing the world the bigger than life alpha male and being very successful at it, while in solitary moments being tormented by the demons that would shout out his lies and folly. The few times he tried to explain to a love one his struggles and deep desires he was ridiculed, mocked and sent to a therapist to get 'fixed'.  Then our paths crossed.

He immediately felt relaxed and like a thirsty dying man finding an oasis, he settled in my presence and slowly poured out his grief. As each tormenting spirit would raise it's head thinking to meet with the past ridicule, he found understanding, compassion, acceptance and love. Silencing the voices he had grown to know so well. Those demons feared me and he found peace in my presence. Alas, in the end, we alone choose what voices we give power to and today I'm not sure what he hears. But I do miss being his source of peace.

As I journey on my own path, I take with me many lessons forged in that relationship and will carry those priceless gems into the next. I'll always remember the beauty of his heartfelt submission. The look of ultimate surrender with just a touch of my hand, a look in my eyes or the sound of my name upon his lips. And for that beautiful moment, the silencing of his demons.

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Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

Warming myself up with hot men, smokey eyes and deep dark tattoos!

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What I'm Thankful For.

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This!  This right here is the form that always gets my attention. Toned, not bone skinny. No bulging muscles that give me nothing to hold on to and caress when I'm feeling soft.  A form, that in my eyes says 'testosterone' and I want all of it!  A beautiful cock that promises pleasure, fullness and lovely hanging balls!  Dark hair because I like dark things. ;) And eyes that look with passion. He makes me Thankful! 

And also this...

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What else makes me Thankful this day are the memories I have of NB and our relationship. Even though I have no idea what the future holds and if we'll ever find our way back together again, as I thought of what I was Thankful for, my mind kept going back to him and his beautiful submission. So setting loss, hurt and heartache aside, I'd like to share the beauty of that submission.

There was nothing pretentious or insincere about NB's submission and his cuckold wiring. It has been deeply rooted since childhood and how it manifested throughout him was the driving force for me in my dominance over him. I am thankful for all the vulnerability he exposed to me; the beauty of his heart and the pleading in his eyes as I would take more and more control of him in ownership. I loved watching the struggle between the Alpha man he was to the world and the little boy inside wanting to be completely owned. Even at times needing desperately to be 'taken' by force. 

Which brings me to his lovely, adorable ass that I loved to prove my ownership as he groan with pain, mixed with pleasure, not sure if he could take more, then after, shyly asking for it again.

Today NB, I choose to be Thankful for you. Many emotions run through me these days, from frustration, anger, disappointment, confusion, sadness...but also softness over all we shared. I am thankful for the beauty of your honest submission to me and pray someday I'll find that again.

~ Vista

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

Freezing cold in my neck of the woods!  Hope this warms all of you!

Just a beautiful pose... 

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Runs my hands down his torso.... :)

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Mmmmm... Yes... Commando and Buttonflies!

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e[lust] edition #52 ~ Enjoy!

 

 Photo courtesy of Secretly Sensuous

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He came in my shoes
Secret Pleasures and a Lifeline
Vulnerability as courage

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Golden Showers
If.

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Sex after 50 Applies to All Ages: Guest post by Penny

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Erotic Non-Fiction

Adressing my Master T
Afterglow, Wounded
Fantasy is Reality, or is it the other way...
Pig Tails? Really?
The Kilt and a Prom Dress
what i want
Whipped & Fucked
Because When You Look at Me, You See Me.

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

SexyLittleIdeas - My Sex Rules
New Rule
Collar Envy (Warning this post is Mushy)
the flood.
Today I cried
Why I love NRE even when it scares me
Love, or Lack Thereof, for an Abuser
a) monogamy b) polyamory c) neither

Sex News,Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

More Than Just Orgasms
A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Bed
Sex By Numbers = Bad Sex

Erotic Fiction

Such a Good Girl
Spontaneous Combustion
Seasonal Changes
Wet...bound and gagged
Larry's Prom Date
Property's Prospective
Inspiration
SATURDAY NIGHT SPRINKLE [WW W74]
Evie and the Trainspotter
Don't Miss A Drop
Marked

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Sub Silent
7(Random)Suggestions for Submissives & Slaves
Communication in D/s Relationships

Writing About Writing

Seven Sex Books I Read, Plus One I Didn't
Thoughts on: The Blood Mage's Sacrifice
Desiring Faggotry

Events

EroticonUSA- Penny's Perspective

Blogging

From Prude to Proud Sex Blogger

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

As I go through my week enjoying my Tumblr page I'm always looking out for what I think would make wonderful Eye Candy!  I know my life is entering into another transition stage.  I can feel it in my bones. There is some sadness....NB has fallen into an emotional state that doesn't fair well with who we are and have been as a couple. Maybe things would be different if we lived closer, but then again, being apart helps me in being able to move forward without running to his side.

And then there is excitement at what may be ahead in my future. I have some ideas and plans I'm personally working towards. And if another primary turns up in my life... I damn hope he's local!!! ;) At least not states away!!!!

To fight the sadness that lurks around the corners of my soul, I find solace in my pics for today's Eye Candy!

This... I need to feel this hunger from a man again!

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I find this pic beautiful and peaceful...love staring at him. 

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I also love some meat and muscle on my men. Not too skinny. I need to feel their strength!

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If You Truly Love Me......

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...You'll see me as the beautiful, wonderful, creative, sexual creature I am. You'll love my smell, and my taste and hunger to let it linger over your face when you have pleased me time and time again. You'll fantasize while away from me how you'll run your hands and mouth over my silken, firm body, and tenderly worship every crease and sweet fold.

...You'll dream of me while you sleep and wake with your cock hard and longing to feel my wet, warm walls wrapped around your shaft. A place that makes you feel accepted, loved and safe. You'll close your eyes and remember how I bring you life and purpose.  How no other place makes you feel whole, but by being by my side.

...You'll listen to my words as they bring you strength and know that my direction is your compass for life. You'll be my protector when other's try to cause me harm and although you know I can care for myself, you'll defend me to the death.

...If You Truly Love Me.....

Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

We went from a great summer straight into winter where I live!  So cold!  Days are now shorter and the sun shines only on occasion.  I need to move to warmer weather!  These lovely images help in warming my soul and.... ;)

Just shift your feet again and those jeans will slip right off pet. 

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No, I'm not going to kiss your toe after I stepped on it.  Just keep sitting like that.

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This really gets me warm! Big smiles!

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Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

A very cold Saturday around here, cloudy and lots of wind.  But my heart has been warmed by a new submissive I stumbled upon. You never know when they'll just show up in your life. Seems promising and he's local...all the better. Butter did come to town but was conflicted and afraid to meet with me.  LOL  I bring out things in him that he has a hard time dealing with because of his conventional upbringing. Hopefully one of these days he'll come to terms with his wiring and give in and be happy for once.  I only remind him of what he chooses to miss out on in life.  So, it is always refreshing when you meet a submissive that knows who he is, is comfortable with that and wanting to move forward.  Life is just too short my friends.

Enjoy the wonderful Eye Candy!

You can not go wrong with Ink and well toned frames!

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A lovely mix....

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A firm ass is always in the mix!

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Saturday Eye Candy!

To celebrate Saturdays and that we all need a diversion or two, here are a few of my a favorite Eye Candy today from my tumblr site! http://sexualdestinies.tumblr.com/

These three pics speak for themselves!  Enjoy your weekend.

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Sometimes, I Just Let Him Explore.......

I had fallen half asleep after hours of touching, fondling, licking, sucking and fucking with NB.  It was late, maybe 1:00 am, the room was warm and the only light was from the street lights outside that were peaking through the crack in the drawn curtains. NB was curled around my back side, his large body covering mine. His warmth was soothing and aided to my drifting off. He still had two fingers inside me, every once in a while moving them to remind us both of their presence. I love falling asleep that way, with either his fingers or cock still warmly snuggled inside.  And he knows that well.

I feel back asleep and then woke to a much fuller presence inside me.  I was still to foggy with sleep to move, but did manage to move my right hand in between NB and my ass to feel he still had his hand and what seemed like more fingers inside me. "Mmmmmmm" ...was all I managed to slip out from between my groggy lips. I debated in my head to stop him, but then enjoying his fullness and knowing how he loves to explore, I gave way to his indulgence. 

I laid there protected by his engulfing body; his warmth, generating through me as his fingers gently explored my most sacred place and he kissed along my back and neck with reverence and adoration.  

One more finger proved to be too much for a pussy that was already tired from use. He backed out all but two fingers leaving them resting inside me as I requested.  Gently he massaged my warm, wet walls as we both eventually drifted off to sleep.

There's a beauty in his exploration of wonder and adoration that I'll always say 'Yes' to.

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