tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4876198802606039333.post6304167114308752879..comments2023-07-06T07:48:46.131-07:00Comments on Sexual Destinies: Why I Need Him There....Victoria Vistahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08143933697570288131noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4876198802606039333.post-50083920777591163022013-09-19T11:36:52.932-07:002013-09-19T11:36:52.932-07:00Aftercare! Is that a thing?Aftercare! Is that a thing?SexyLittleIdeashttp://sexylittleideas.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4876198802606039333.post-78567193079630123042013-09-14T08:34:07.690-07:002013-09-14T08:34:07.690-07:00Hi Jade. So glad to hear from you and that this p...Hi Jade. So glad to hear from you and that this post really grabbed you and shed light on another perspective of cuckolding. As I mentioned above, this is why I started this blog, to bring another perspective and show what lies underneath all strong and good relationships...love and respect.<br /><br />Thank you for your great comment. ;)<br /><br />~ VistaVictoria Vistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08143933697570288131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4876198802606039333.post-25409713135154728312013-09-14T08:17:22.620-07:002013-09-14T08:17:22.620-07:00Sometimes I read a blog post that just GRABS me, t...Sometimes I read a blog post that just GRABS me, that makes me think about something in a whole new way - this is one of those posts. As the other commenter said, I have never understood cuckholding, and the way that I have seen it presented elsewhere has always been in such a...derisive...fashion that it's turned me off the idea entirely. But your description of it, of what makes it work for you AND him, of the obvious love and respect you have for him and the relationship you share makes me see it in a whole new light, and that it is not that different from my own dynamic (I am submissive to my Owner/Top.)<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this.Jadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15724557743167756528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4876198802606039333.post-12063848557690273792013-09-01T17:19:11.080-07:002013-09-01T17:19:11.080-07:00But Lo loving to be called a 'hotwife' has...But Lo loving to be called a 'hotwife' has a more genuine meaning behind it than some of the players on the web and you two respect and love each other. That's a big difference. <br /><br />Glad the post hit a chord with you. ;)<br /><br />~ VistaVictoria Vistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08143933697570288131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4876198802606039333.post-78784338408303683382013-09-01T05:43:55.296-07:002013-09-01T05:43:55.296-07:00I like how you explain that it keeps things dynami...I like how you explain that it keeps things dynamic and "off balance." That's the fun part - even if it is excruciatingly nerve wracking! However, Lo does love to be called a "hotwife" - among other terms. . . Lolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05167452380561174136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4876198802606039333.post-51742460461312533492013-08-31T07:57:58.848-07:002013-08-31T07:57:58.848-07:00I'm so pleased this gave you another perspecti...I'm so pleased this gave you another perspective. It's one of the reasons I started this blog. I was unhappy with what I mostly found on the web concerning cuckolding. A high percentage was about what you describe here and a pet peeve of mine is the 'hotwife' term. Only because it puts this way of life into a category of kink that has a cartoon slant to it of misused men unable to control their wives etc.<br /><br />The true cuckold relationship is so much more than that and must come from a place of real need and wiring of the cuck. Which is why most men and people don't understand. For NB it's a psychological and sexual wiring that has been with him all his life and with me he has found a safe place to unravel what has lived in him so long. I do believe why it works with us is because of the D/s component of our relationship. I am his mistress and dominant, he is my submissive and my cuckold. I understand him and because of his vulnerability and the transparency he has given to me, I am trusted to not harm him but to nurture and bring him freedom. <br /><br />My focus is always on how things effect our relationship...bottom line. Outside of the D/s, he is my best friend. We have great love and respect for each other. I would never destroy that.<br /><br />Thank you for your comment. :)<br /><br />~ Vista <br />Victoria Vistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08143933697570288131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4876198802606039333.post-14238328586633194652013-08-30T23:25:27.231-07:002013-08-30T23:25:27.231-07:00Thanks for that.
I have to say I've never un...Thanks for that.<br /><br />I have to say I've never understood the cuckolding thing.<br /><br />Although I've no objection in principle to polyamory, I'm not sure I'd like to be in a situation that fed jealousy quite so forcibly and directly, simply because jealousy is one of the most engulfing emotions there is - an emotion that destroys one's sense of self-worth even if it's only for the duration of a scene.<br /><br />I can see that it wouldn't be possible without the aftercare that you give your sub, and I applaud your mindfulness.<br /><br />That said, I've seen cuckolding written up on other blogs with the sort of smirking, self-satisfied, ill-disguised contempt for the submissive male that makes me feel uneasy, because subs are people too, and they deserve respect.<br /><br />Personally speaking, and as a submissive male, I'd never submit to any woman who didn't on some fundamental level respect me.<br /><br />At least this has given me a different perspective.Grumpyoldswitchhttp://tonybeckett2.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.com